Our relationships shape who we are. We learn from the people we share our life with, and in return they learn from us. Together, two people can learn something about themselves that they could never learn apart. Relationships are a place of merger and separation. Of coming together to create something magical, but also needing to find our independence within that relationship. To find that balance.
For Enneagram Type Nine’s, that represents the challenge they spend their life navigating.
九型人格类型八,“挑战者号”,是一个passionate and protective romantic partner. Eights love and respect a partner who challenges them to be their best self. They seek loyal and independent partners who aren’t afraid to go after what they want in life and love. However, some may see the Eight as too intense and competitive. If the Eight doesn’t learn to soften their edges and embrace vulnerability, it can cause issues in their relationships.
We bring people into our lives for many different reasons: someone to party with, someone to read with, someone to help defenseless puppies with. But the people who stay in our lives are the ones whom we have grown to trust—trust with our sensitive feelings, delicate thoughts and who understand our desire to live life the way we do.
At their heart, relationships are a place of vulnerability.
Enneagram Type Sevens are fun, enthusiastic and romantic partners. They enjoy planning creative dates and keeping the spark alive in their relationships. However, they can struggle with having difficult conversations or paying attention to the details.
So, which Enneagram types are the most compatible with the Type Seven? There isn’t one answer. Sevens can be compatible with any of the types as long as effective communication and mutual love and respect are in place.
Having a true partner in crime can be an absolute delight—whether that’s a friend who is always up for an adventure or a partner who says ‘yes’ more often than ‘no’ to your wild suggestions. ForType Sevens, the best things in life are often made better by sharing them. A good bottle of wine, a sunset, an arthouse film or Sunday’s bottomless brunch, are all more enjoyable when shared with someone.
Friendships and relationships can be a source of safety and protection. When we belong to a person or group, whether through shared interests, ideals or experiences, we feel a sense of belonging. We are reassured the group or relationship will go some way to buffering us from the calamity of daily life. ForEnneagram Sixes, finding people or groups they can belong to is crucial.
Thoughtful and protective of those who they love, Enneagram Sixes make loving and loyal partners. However, when less healthy, the Six can come across as controlling and have trouble trusting their partner, which can lead to issues within the relationship.
Which Enneagram types are the most compatible with the Six? The answer isn’t so simple. Any type can be compatible with a Six — and each type will experience their own joys and struggles within the relationship.
Insightful and a bit mysterious, the Enneagram Five,“The Investigator,”is a thoughtful partner, who often surprises their significant other with small romantic gestures and desires to deeply understand their partner. Since this type needs plenty of alone time, they do best with a partner who understands their need to withdraw.
Relationships come in many shapes and sizes. There is no script for the “perfect” relationship, only two people navigating their way to some form of interdependent existence. Some types focus on pulling people close—too close, while others try to create distance and, at times, too much distance. Finding the right balance is the work of every type in a relationship, and insights from our Enneagram type can help us navigate this drama.
Romantic and creative, the Enneagram Four,“The Individualist,”is a passionate and adoring partner, constantly seeking to express their love and make their partner feel special. However, they may have an idealistic view of their romantic partner and their life together. This paired with the Fours tendency to have low self-esteem can cause struggles in a relationship.
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