Hi Kayla, I'm not sure if you're still reading this but I would just leave a message here. I've experienced on what you've shared, and it's normal to feel so. However, what triggered me to change is basically something bad happened in my life that knocked my head "Wake up!" (Of course I don't hope anyone experience this and that's why I'm sharing here haha).
I can provide some significant examples that made me changes or be more discipline in my life:
1) I always have dreams of living with my own outside (it's nothing bad to think so though) but somehow I have grew to be a more responsible person to my loved ones especially my family because my father passed away in my 24, suddenly due to heart attack and we all have no idea at all. How it happened was very drama kind of scenes and it makes the huge impact on me. In short, (一)我不是和我family during this period as I'm at oversea that time. And I'm being forced to delay one day to go back due to taking care of my friend in hospital, which was exactly the night where my father passed away.
(b) I never have second chance to bid proper goodbye to my father coz the last meet up with my father was - he's smiling at me and wanted to help me to carry my luggage, but I feel so embarrassing and asked him to go back immediately, I can do ut by myself.
(c) I have a typing halfway but "never able to send out" message to my father coz I'm too focus on another thing that happened at the same time.
It was a regret to me (now a reminder) and how nice if time can go back and allow me to correct certain behaviors. I know this is a must for me to go through in order to wake me up.What I wanted to emphasize here is in order to have motivation to drive goals or be more discipline, you have to "give the purpose" for things you want achieve, whether for your loved ones, for better world or for yourself.Like my example, I wanted to take care of my mum and my family. This is the purpose for me to practice and learn to become a more mature, responsibile and reliable person.
(2) From the above incident, lesson learned wasthere's no take two for life. Anything could happen anytime anywhere. We don't know if we're still in the earth tomorrow, so stop dreaming and start doing now!Which is why I do whatever to overcome my fear of speaking out. I have have now became more outspoken and willing to express my gratitude & love to people I cared.
(3) There's a person who told me once, in order to help more people, you must be able to gain more authorities and money. Yeah it's not nice to listen but no doubt it's a fact~ What should I do is not arguing about the philosophy, instead I should start looking into prioritize what's important to do now and what's not. Ask myself "How am I going to achieve this goal?" Well, I'm not talking about to be a millionaire or politician or what, but start something small first (as small as changing certain habits or mindsets) in order to achieve the goal is the key! What's the purpose here, for a better world.
(4)自己的目标呢?除了自我小鬼ortance.. Yes I still wish to stay outside by myself in one day coz that's my dream. But in order to find the balance between dream and reality (commitment), I have to go into details on What and How. I'm now focus on the ways to gain more income in order to buy a house at certain location (not too far from my family in order to give support yet able to have my own life). --------------------------------------------- I believe all INFPs are very powerful creatures in the world especially our will power. We can make anything happen as long as we found the purpose to drive it! Hence, what we need to do is first to acknowledge our weaknesses, to accept the reality (tough truth), then focus and work on HOW to achieve it.
p/s: I have spent 25 minutes to share my experience here because I think it worth it and I really hope it helps other INFPs to be a happier and better self. Thanks for reading though! And now, see ya! I have to continue exercise (back to my schedule hehe) XD
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Hi Kayla, I'm not sure if you're still reading this but I would just leave a message here. I've experienced on what you've shared, and it's normal to feel so. However, what triggered me to change is basically something bad happened in my life that knocked my head "Wake up!" (Of course I don't hope anyone experience this and that's why I'm sharing here haha).
I can provide some significant examples that made me changes or be more discipline in my life:
1) I always have dreams of living with my own outside (it's nothing bad to think so though) but somehow I have grew to be a more responsible person to my loved ones especially my family because my father passed away in my 24, suddenly due to heart attack and we all have no idea at all. How it happened was very drama kind of scenes and it makes the huge impact on me. In short,
(一)我不是和我family during this period as I'm at oversea that time. And I'm being forced to delay one day to go back due to taking care of my friend in hospital, which was exactly the night where my father passed away.
(b) I never have second chance to bid proper goodbye to my father coz the last meet up with my father was - he's smiling at me and wanted to help me to carry my luggage, but I feel so embarrassing and asked him to go back immediately, I can do ut by myself.
(c) I have a typing halfway but "never able to send out" message to my father coz I'm too focus on another thing that happened at the same time.
It was a regret to me (now a reminder) and how nice if time can go back and allow me to correct certain behaviors. I know this is a must for me to go through in order to wake me up.What I wanted to emphasize here is in order to have motivation to drive goals or be more discipline, you have to "give the purpose" for things you want achieve, whether for your loved ones, for better world or for yourself.Like my example, I wanted to take care of my mum and my family. This is the purpose for me to practice and learn to become a more mature, responsibile and reliable person.
(2) From the above incident, lesson learned wasthere's no take two for life. Anything could happen anytime anywhere. We don't know if we're still in the earth tomorrow, so stop dreaming and start doing now!Which is why I do whatever to overcome my fear of speaking out. I have have now became more outspoken and willing to express my gratitude & love to people I cared.
(3) There's a person who told me once, in order to help more people, you must be able to gain more authorities and money. Yeah it's not nice to listen but no doubt it's a fact~ What should I do is not arguing about the philosophy, instead I should start looking into prioritize what's important to do now and what's not. Ask myself "How am I going to achieve this goal?" Well, I'm not talking about to be a millionaire or politician or what, but start something small first (as small as changing certain habits or mindsets) in order to achieve the goal is the key! What's the purpose here, for a better world.
(4)自己的目标呢?除了自我小鬼ortance.. Yes I still wish to stay outside by myself in one day coz that's my dream. But in order to find the balance between dream and reality (commitment), I have to go into details on What and How. I'm now focus on the ways to gain more income in order to buy a house at certain location (not too far from my family in order to give support yet able to have my own life).
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I believe all INFPs are very powerful creatures in the world especially our will power. We can make anything happen as long as we found the purpose to drive it! Hence, what we need to do is first to acknowledge our weaknesses, to accept the reality (tough truth), then focus and work on HOW to achieve it.
p/s: I have spent 25 minutes to share my experience here because I think it worth it and I really hope it helps other INFPs to be a happier and better self. Thanks for reading though! And now, see ya! I have to continue exercise (back to my schedule hehe) XD