INTP has tendencies to be avarice (holding on to what's left, or overly trifty) or being reclusive, these they do to conserve energy because they see world as overwhelming with limited resources, and they spent many times & energy living inside their heads. That explains why you feel you dont get much in return from long time of relationship. Sometimes I think the only person fit for INTPs are extroverts, particularly ENFJ, because they have ample abilities and energies to reach out, create hype mood, and also being happy with other friends. Enfj can also helps them realized their potentials. My advice for you as fellow introverts is to get on their mind side. Chalenge their views, make constructive discussions, express your desires, but keep the one you want the most to yourself. Let INTP guess what it is and be intrigued. Ask what they want to do on their birthdays, hint what you'd like to do on yours. Because if they feel grateful, they'll do the same next year. Give them leadership position occasionally, even though it's hard for them, give it as a challenge. Intps are a warmest machine, give them chance to be competent, they'll become friends for life.
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INTP has tendencies to be avarice (holding on to what's left, or overly trifty) or being reclusive, these they do to conserve energy because they see world as overwhelming with limited resources, and they spent many times & energy living inside their heads. That explains why you feel you dont get much in return from long time of relationship. Sometimes I think the only person fit for INTPs are extroverts, particularly ENFJ, because they have ample abilities and energies to reach out, create hype mood, and also being happy with other friends. Enfj can also helps them realized their potentials. My advice for you as fellow introverts is to get on their mind side. Chalenge their views, make constructive discussions, express your desires, but keep the one you want the most to yourself. Let INTP guess what it is and be intrigued. Ask what they want to do on their birthdays, hint what you'd like to do on yours. Because if they feel grateful, they'll do the same next year. Give them leadership position occasionally, even though it's hard for them, give it as a challenge. Intps are a warmest machine, give them chance to be competent, they'll become friends for life.
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