Yes I thought the same. I do end up giving advice out of care, empathy. I have found myself giving advice to trainee students even when I am not their mentor as I feel how isolating it must be for them to be in a new place because I was once a student. I should stop that because it probably is not valued.
Just recently, my aunt was pregant, I felt my duty of care to call her a give her handy tips because I had jst been through it. Later, when she ws admitted to hospital due to raised blood pressure I called her up and asked her how she was and assured her not to get worried but she wd nt text me to say she ws discharged. And again she ws admitted due to placental problems (i found out from another family member) again I messaged her hw she ws, reassured her abt her rights as a patient, reassured she was in good hands and not to worry..and also called her and spoke at length. But she wd nt send me a quick msg to let me know tht they hv decided to operate on her or the baby was there. This finally made me feel probably people do not need advice hence I ended up in this page. Probably I think people like myself, I have always appreciated well meaning advice from any source, I will just store it somewhere and will use it when I need because not a lot of people want your good, fake friends and toxic family members are just waiting for you to slip and fall.
After reading this page, although I do care about trainees because I have been in their shoes and I do care about younger family members who are in university and I give advice on how to stay out of trouble, it is due to genuine concern or I am just denying the power play situation. All I know is I need to stop doing this.
Jackie (not verified)says...
Yes I thought the same. I do end up giving advice out of care, empathy. I have found myself giving advice to trainee students even when I am not their mentor as I feel how isolating it must be for them to be in a new place because I was once a student. I should stop that because it probably is not valued.
Just recently, my aunt was pregant, I felt my duty of care to call her a give her handy tips because I had jst been through it. Later, when she ws admitted to hospital due to raised blood pressure I called her up and asked her how she was and assured her not to get worried but she wd nt text me to say she ws discharged. And again she ws admitted due to placental problems (i found out from another family member) again I messaged her hw she ws, reassured her abt her rights as a patient, reassured she was in good hands and not to worry..and also called her and spoke at length. But she wd nt send me a quick msg to let me know tht they hv decided to operate on her or the baby was there. This finally made me feel probably people do not need advice hence I ended up in this page. Probably I think people like myself, I have always appreciated well meaning advice from any source, I will just store it somewhere and will use it when I need because not a lot of people want your good, fake friends and toxic family members are just waiting for you to slip and fall.
After reading this page, although I do care about trainees because I have been in their shoes and I do care about younger family members who are in university and I give advice on how to stay out of trouble, it is due to genuine concern or I am just denying the power play situation. All I know is I need to stop doing this.