I'm not super knowledgeable of enneagram...still learning. But I am definitely a 4 and can relate so much to your comment. However I think part of the oversharing issue for me is that * any * amount of sharing carries so much emotional weight that I * always * feel like I'm oversharing, when objectively speaking I'm just...sharing...so then I clamp up or go into the hell-loop of victimization and self-doubt you describe. It's often a self-perception issue for me, more than a behavioural problem.
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I'm not super knowledgeable of enneagram...still learning. But I am definitely a 4 and can relate so much to your comment. However I think part of the oversharing issue for me is that * any * amount of sharing carries so much emotional weight that I * always * feel like I'm oversharing, when objectively speaking I'm just...sharing...so then I clamp up or go into the hell-loop of victimization and self-doubt you describe. It's often a self-perception issue for me, more than a behavioural problem.