I think the goal isn't to not feel feelings but to prioritize, be grounded and not let yourself spiral to your own detriment. I'm no expert and I feel things intensely as well and surprised when others don't. But what may work when you feel overwhelmed is to journal. First part just vent out your frustrations. Then when that's done, analyze yourself and simply think it through and write. What would I like to see in my life that would make me happy/at ease? List 3-5 things you'd like to see or do more. They don't have to be lofty but basic things to bring you joy/mental peace/ease of mind. What is your emotion you're feeling when ur frustrated/overwhelmed? Why are you feeling that way, what is the source? Is it helping or hindering your day/mood/progress/goals listed. Once you get it out on paper, you don't have to regurgitate it in your head over and over. Start journaling your feelings and once a month go back and read your entries. If you're still complains about the same things then find a better solution. Also for the things u have done more of to progress forward, it's a nice moment to sit and smile and be thankful you don't feel the same as u did or u met or made progress on a goal. I find it's a good marker for me in general. Sometimes if it's been a long time I just open to a page at random and read. Sometimes I laugh sometimes I think 'dear Lord am I still complaining about that!' ?. Then I realize life is ever changing. We are just people, a speck of sand spinning on a ball. And life is exactly what u are holding...a book of many moments, happy sad, etc etc. feelings of all sorts will come and go. The goal is to keep it at a healthy balance. Don't go down a rabbit hole. Have perspective. Be kind to yourself. Get to know yourself and your strengths and don't beat yourself up. Instead be aware of shortcomings. Giggle at them, then aim for a little better each time. Not sure if this helped or hindered? But it seems to help me when I'm too much for my own head.
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Hi Abby,
I think the goal isn't to not feel feelings but to prioritize, be grounded and not let yourself spiral to your own detriment. I'm no expert and I feel things intensely as well and surprised when others don't. But what may work when you feel overwhelmed is to journal. First part just vent out your frustrations. Then when that's done, analyze yourself and simply think it through and write. What would I like to see in my life that would make me happy/at ease? List 3-5 things you'd like to see or do more. They don't have to be lofty but basic things to bring you joy/mental peace/ease of mind. What is your emotion you're feeling when ur frustrated/overwhelmed? Why are you feeling that way, what is the source? Is it helping or hindering your day/mood/progress/goals listed.
Once you get it out on paper, you don't have to regurgitate it in your head over and over.
Start journaling your feelings and once a month go back and read your entries. If you're still complains about the same things then find a better solution. Also for the things u have done more of to progress forward, it's a nice moment to sit and smile and be thankful you don't feel the same as u did or u met or made progress on a goal. I find it's a good marker for me in general. Sometimes if it's been a long time I just open to a page at random and read. Sometimes I laugh sometimes I think 'dear Lord am I still complaining about that!' ?. Then I realize life is ever changing. We are just people, a speck of sand spinning on a ball. And life is exactly what u are holding...a book of many moments, happy sad, etc etc. feelings of all sorts will come and go. The goal is to keep it at a healthy balance. Don't go down a rabbit hole. Have perspective. Be kind to yourself. Get to know yourself and your strengths and don't beat yourself up. Instead be aware of shortcomings. Giggle at them, then aim for a little better each time. Not sure if this helped or hindered? But it seems to help me when I'm too much for my own head.