I have noticed over the years that this "ideal" compatibility largely comes down to how healthy and growth driven the INFJ is. ENTPs need somebody who is willing to grow with them and take personal responsibility for themselves. Many immature or unhealthy INFJs are simply not willing to do this. ENTPs are sometimes blunt and harsh but they are generally willing to tone things down and change if their behaviour hurts someone they care about. A "fixed" mindset INFJ is not. This is where the problem tends to lie.
Forever stuck in the "victim mentality" these types of INFJs will never accept any wrongdoing on their part and will always shift blame to the other partner. I'm not necessarily even referring to ENTPs here but to any other type they are partnered with. I have always felt that most INFJs will struggle with long-term relationships far more than any other type. ENTPs generally do not have this problem. Their problem is that they feel stifled and bored with their partners and therefore run for the hills to embrace their freedom. ENTPs fall in love with the complex mind of the INFJ. We are a never ending labyrinth for them and so they do not get bored. This is why, at our best, we are perfect for them. But, we need to allow them to be free in the same way we need to be allowed to be alone.
The lesson to take home if you're an INFJ is that you need to start owning your shit. Stop viewing yourself as a perpetual victim of the world (no matter how bad things have been for you) and start working and changing yourselves. The world is not going to "accept you for who you are" and your romantic partners will not stick with you if they feel they are constantly walking on eggshells with you.
外向是理想的匹配的原因之一us is because ENTPs generally already have this mindset down by the time they reach adulthood. Everything you need for yourselves can be found in the ENTP. Similarly, everything the ENTP needs can be found in you (if you are healthy that is).
When the INFJ starts to take ownership for their own faults and makes a strong and decisive commitment to change, that's when they are ready for the ENTP. At this point the pair is simply unstoppable and both parties will have the understanding and relationship they desire. I've seen this happen many times and it even happened to me.
Until then, the INFJ will continue to feel "misundertood" and that the world is "against them". They will feel torn, being split between feeling “special” and “entitled” for greatness on the one hand yet feeling “worthless” and “ugly” on the inside. Don't let this be you forever.
I believe in every INFJ out there, don't dismiss what I am saying. I was there once but I decided to commit to change.
Thomas_INFJ (not verified)says...
I have noticed over the years that this "ideal" compatibility largely comes down to how healthy and growth driven the INFJ is. ENTPs need somebody who is willing to grow with them and take personal responsibility for themselves. Many immature or unhealthy INFJs are simply not willing to do this. ENTPs are sometimes blunt and harsh but they are generally willing to tone things down and change if their behaviour hurts someone they care about. A "fixed" mindset INFJ is not. This is where the problem tends to lie.
Forever stuck in the "victim mentality" these types of INFJs will never accept any wrongdoing on their part and will always shift blame to the other partner. I'm not necessarily even referring to ENTPs here but to any other type they are partnered with. I have always felt that most INFJs will struggle with long-term relationships far more than any other type. ENTPs generally do not have this problem. Their problem is that they feel stifled and bored with their partners and therefore run for the hills to embrace their freedom. ENTPs fall in love with the complex mind of the INFJ. We are a never ending labyrinth for them and so they do not get bored. This is why, at our best, we are perfect for them. But, we need to allow them to be free in the same way we need to be allowed to be alone.
The lesson to take home if you're an INFJ is that you need to start owning your shit. Stop viewing yourself as a perpetual victim of the world (no matter how bad things have been for you) and start working and changing yourselves. The world is not going to "accept you for who you are" and your romantic partners will not stick with you if they feel they are constantly walking on eggshells with you.
外向是理想的匹配的原因之一us is because ENTPs generally already have this mindset down by the time they reach adulthood. Everything you need for yourselves can be found in the ENTP. Similarly, everything the ENTP needs can be found in you (if you are healthy that is).
When the INFJ starts to take ownership for their own faults and makes a strong and decisive commitment to change, that's when they are ready for the ENTP. At this point the pair is simply unstoppable and both parties will have the understanding and relationship they desire. I've seen this happen many times and it even happened to me.
Until then, the INFJ will continue to feel "misundertood" and that the world is "against them". They will feel torn, being split between feeling “special” and “entitled” for greatness on the one hand yet feeling “worthless” and “ugly” on the inside. Don't let this be you forever.
I believe in every INFJ out there, don't dismiss what I am saying. I was there once but I decided to commit to change.
Yours truly,
Thomas (Another INFJ)