This is why I often say ENFPs make great friends for INFJs but poor lovers. The ENFP will often become an enabler for the unhealthier aspects of an INFJ. An ENTP will not enable anything. Not in a million years. This is actually good for an INFJ.
I wouldn't necessarily say an ENTPs tolerance is "conditional". It is conditional only if you refuse to engage with them logically. As long as you can rationally explain your point of view the ENTP is the actually the most tolerant of all the MBTI types. They are extremely non-judgmental and forgiving. The problem is most INFJs prioritise their feelings before facts when dealing with life's problems. Big mistake. ENTPs are actually incredibly caring and empathetic (I'd say genuinely moreso than ENFPs). When they hide their emotions behind a wall they are actually being extremely selfless in that they don't want to ruin anyone elses experience. They often put the happiness of others before themselves. People often mistake this for "coldness".
"The ENTP, while they do have as strong feelings and almost as strong intuition as INFJ, does not allow themselwes to be ruled by them, and when they have gone against their principles enough to show tolerance in a situation they normally would'nt, simply because they care, then they expect a similar effort from the other party."
Of course. Why shouldn't they expect similar effort? That's called healthy give and take. We INFJs are actually far worse when it comes to our expectations of other people. We are hypocrites in that we demand near-perfecion of everyone else yet can not hold ourselves to that same standard. Something we all need to address.
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This is why I often say ENFPs make great friends for INFJs but poor lovers. The ENFP will often become an enabler for the unhealthier aspects of an INFJ. An ENTP will not enable anything. Not in a million years. This is actually good for an INFJ.
I wouldn't necessarily say an ENTPs tolerance is "conditional". It is conditional only if you refuse to engage with them logically. As long as you can rationally explain your point of view the ENTP is the actually the most tolerant of all the MBTI types. They are extremely non-judgmental and forgiving. The problem is most INFJs prioritise their feelings before facts when dealing with life's problems. Big mistake. ENTPs are actually incredibly caring and empathetic (I'd say genuinely moreso than ENFPs). When they hide their emotions behind a wall they are actually being extremely selfless in that they don't want to ruin anyone elses experience. They often put the happiness of others before themselves. People often mistake this for "coldness".
"The ENTP, while they do have as strong feelings and almost as strong intuition as INFJ, does not allow themselwes to be ruled by them, and when they have gone against their principles enough to show tolerance in a situation they normally would'nt, simply because they care, then they expect a similar effort from the other party."
Of course. Why shouldn't they expect similar effort? That's called healthy give and take. We INFJs are actually far worse when it comes to our expectations of other people. We are hypocrites in that we demand near-perfecion of everyone else yet can not hold ourselves to that same standard. Something we all need to address.