I used to be like this too. Being a male INFP I think society teaches/forces us to close ourselves off more in order to not seem overly emotional.
Sounds like you agree with #1 even though you said you don't. The fact that we rarely share our time is exactly what shows that we like someone when we do chose to share our time.
# 2绝对是中科院es by case. If someone asks me to remember a detail it's 50/50. But when I like someone I'll remember things about people I didn't even know I heard before.
#3 sounds like you just don't trust someone with your feelings, which is understandable because they are very personal, or you just don't want to vulnerable. I'm trying to be more authentic and letting the people that don't like it walk out of my life. It's definitely scary, but it's also very liberating. Still feels weird going against 32 years of habitually hiding parts of me.
I don't remember 4, but 5 is definitely a "baby steps" thing, and if someone shuts down part of my world they don't get it back. I gave a poem to an ex when we were talking and she said it was too much for her at the time, we dated for a couple years but I was never able to get myself back into the headspace to write poetry for her again.
I think we all have different experiences, the male INFP experience is very different from the female experience, but even among males we cope/hide/manage our feelings and boundaries differently in order to coexist in a space where we are essentially the opposite of how society defines masculinity.
Male INFP (not verified)says...
I used to be like this too. Being a male INFP I think society teaches/forces us to close ourselves off more in order to not seem overly emotional.
Sounds like you agree with #1 even though you said you don't. The fact that we rarely share our time is exactly what shows that we like someone when we do chose to share our time.
# 2绝对是中科院es by case. If someone asks me to remember a detail it's 50/50. But when I like someone I'll remember things about people I didn't even know I heard before.
#3 sounds like you just don't trust someone with your feelings, which is understandable because they are very personal, or you just don't want to vulnerable. I'm trying to be more authentic and letting the people that don't like it walk out of my life. It's definitely scary, but it's also very liberating. Still feels weird going against 32 years of habitually hiding parts of me.
I don't remember 4, but 5 is definitely a "baby steps" thing, and if someone shuts down part of my world they don't get it back. I gave a poem to an ex when we were talking and she said it was too much for her at the time, we dated for a couple years but I was never able to get myself back into the headspace to write poetry for her again.
I think we all have different experiences, the male INFP experience is very different from the female experience, but even among males we cope/hide/manage our feelings and boundaries differently in order to coexist in a space where we are essentially the opposite of how society defines masculinity.