Please take this with a grain of salt/ if I am making assumptions, I apologize. As an INFJ daughter, the way you worded this question, my best advice for you would be to actually listen to what your daughter says to you. For me, the issue is, I tell my mother things, and over the years I've learned I have to be as specific as possible because of her thinking nature, and quite often, she will decide whatever I specify "doesnt make sense" to her and she will do something completely opposing to what I asked. I am 29 years old, if there is something I am asking, it is usually something pretty important/ emotionally involved. So if my mother does not do what I asked while saying she will (I obviously know she has her own life and do not expect her to say yes to helping me every time I need it), but every time this happens, my trust for her is eroded just slightly more, causing me to lose the ability to have compassion and empathy for her in situations she needs me to help out with- and she, like you, is very much confused why. I may be wrong, every family dynamic is different, I just want to say I hope you have asked the exact question you've asked here to your daughter- and if you haven't, please do, and please try to actually listen what she says if she decides to explain these things to youm
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Please take this with a grain of salt/ if I am making assumptions, I apologize. As an INFJ daughter, the way you worded this question, my best advice for you would be to actually listen to what your daughter says to you. For me, the issue is, I tell my mother things, and over the years I've learned I have to be as specific as possible because of her thinking nature, and quite often, she will decide whatever I specify "doesnt make sense" to her and she will do something completely opposing to what I asked. I am 29 years old, if there is something I am asking, it is usually something pretty important/ emotionally involved. So if my mother does not do what I asked while saying she will (I obviously know she has her own life and do not expect her to say yes to helping me every time I need it), but every time this happens, my trust for her is eroded just slightly more, causing me to lose the ability to have compassion and empathy for her in situations she needs me to help out with- and she, like you, is very much confused why. I may be wrong, every family dynamic is different, I just want to say I hope you have asked the exact question you've asked here to your daughter- and if you haven't, please do, and please try to actually listen what she says if she decides to explain these things to youm