Responding to some of the discussion, it's important not to get too caught up in the Thinking/Feeling dichotomy. Remember the MBTI is just a neat model. According to MBTI, I'm more of a Thinker because I prioritize long-term, greater good in my decision-making and ethics. I can still be very emotional, and I recognise the primacy of values and personal experiences.
On the other hand, Ihavedealt with Feelers who have lower EQ (or at least, who tend to display lower EQ in some circumstances). When we get into conflict, they are quick to assume malintent. It is frustrating and exhausting, and not much can be done because they've immediately jumped into confirmation bias mode. Gentle questioning and attempts to ask them to consider multiple perspectives turns into "you're gaslighting me". It happens.
Anyone can have low EQ, and EQ is a broad category of competencies. You can be good at some stuff, and rather weak in others (the person above, for example, when not triggered, is a warm and highly altruistic communicator).
Do your best, try for a while, but set a timeline. Give it 6 months to a year for a long-term relationship. Consider if you'd want your best friend or child to go through the same experience. Then make your decision from there. A parting of ways can sometimes be best and most gracious action.
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Responding to some of the discussion, it's important not to get too caught up in the Thinking/Feeling dichotomy. Remember the MBTI is just a neat model. According to MBTI, I'm more of a Thinker because I prioritize long-term, greater good in my decision-making and ethics. I can still be very emotional, and I recognise the primacy of values and personal experiences.
On the other hand, Ihavedealt with Feelers who have lower EQ (or at least, who tend to display lower EQ in some circumstances). When we get into conflict, they are quick to assume malintent. It is frustrating and exhausting, and not much can be done because they've immediately jumped into confirmation bias mode. Gentle questioning and attempts to ask them to consider multiple perspectives turns into "you're gaslighting me". It happens.
Anyone can have low EQ, and EQ is a broad category of competencies. You can be good at some stuff, and rather weak in others (the person above, for example, when not triggered, is a warm and highly altruistic communicator).
Do your best, try for a while, but set a timeline. Give it 6 months to a year for a long-term relationship. Consider if you'd want your best friend or child to go through the same experience. Then make your decision from there. A parting of ways can sometimes be best and most gracious action.