Hi! My heart goes out to you. My ex was very similar. Turned out he is on the autism spectrum. It was 10 years (off/on) after being together, and a baby, that I had had enough. I requested an evaluation by a neuropsychologist. Back then, they still called it Aspergers. He's a physician and functions well enough at his job. However, relationally, and EQ, he is clueless. Mark Hutten on YouTube has some helpful videos on Aspergers.
Another consideration, regarding your husband, look into Dismissive avoidant attachment style. My ex fits the criteria for that too (and the childhood history). Dr Diana Poole Heller and The Personal Development School on YouTube, have super helpful info regarding attachment style dynamics.
It helps to have that info, to help take others behavior less personally. It is more about their internal issues than it is about us.
Healing my self, my connection to myself, developing self agency, and healing my own attachment style, has empowered me.
Mandy (not verified)says...
Hi!
My heart goes out to you.
My ex was very similar. Turned out he is on the autism spectrum. It was 10 years (off/on) after being together, and a baby, that I had had enough. I requested an evaluation by a neuropsychologist. Back then, they still called it Aspergers. He's a physician and functions well enough at his job. However, relationally, and EQ, he is clueless. Mark Hutten on YouTube has some helpful videos on Aspergers.
Another consideration, regarding your husband, look into Dismissive avoidant attachment style. My ex fits the criteria for that too (and the childhood history). Dr Diana Poole Heller and The Personal Development School on YouTube, have super helpful info regarding attachment style dynamics.
It helps to have that info, to help take others behavior less personally. It is more about their internal issues than it is about us.
Healing my self, my connection to myself, developing self agency, and healing my own attachment style, has empowered me.
I wish for you healing, empowerment and peace.