true account of 4's I have struggled all my life to find a friend who wants to connect at a deeper level. Recent contact maintained I was self pitying in my sharing my life.
Hearing that she will " never accept self pity " I chose to see that as her assessment of my openness to share very painful events. To her however , she had heard it " all before, each trying to prove that their sad story was the worst " I chose to read that, as her none acceptance of and misunderstanding of, my own accounts. Then I was reminded again, " Not to be self pitying ". I realise that I now need to introduce my " sadness " of life events, with a plan of how I am dealing with these now. Most people don't seem capable of entering into anothers situation, realising, that person already has an additional view, but as a 4 , I chose to save that, till a basis could be laid of , mutual sharing, that is raw, hard and real.
I did not realise I need to present to others like a Polished Politician:
yes - the abject state of this Reserve, has been festering for years, HoWEVER WE have a plan over the next 2 years, to turn it into, a Butterfly Reserve!"
so I have more work to do.
i want to enncourage all 4'sx to turn to their Higher Power, and themselves, for Life !!!!!!!!!!!!!
few will ever undersrand.
and so John Lenon is shot
Bob Dylan in dark moments makes a pact with the Devil, johnny Depp goes through hell over the narcissistic woman, abusing him, saying, it's all Johnny's fault.
4's have flaws. And growth will remedy feelings of sadness for ourselves.
growth will help us to understand and connect with, those who want to accept, that the truth about our self pity, is often due to our percrptions, No One Understands. Nor does anyone have the love or devition, to dit with these heavier emotions, sisde by side with P J's, A Cubber, and quiet reflective talk.
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true account of 4's I have struggled all my life to find a friend who wants to connect at a deeper level. Recent contact maintained I was self pitying in my sharing my life.
Hearing that she will " never accept self pity " I chose to see that as her assessment of my openness to share very painful events. To her however , she had heard it " all before, each trying to prove that their sad story was the worst " I chose to read that, as her none acceptance of and misunderstanding of, my own accounts. Then I was reminded again, " Not to be self pitying ". I realise that I now need to introduce my " sadness " of life events, with a plan of how I am dealing with these now. Most people don't seem capable of entering into anothers situation, realising, that person already has an additional view, but as a 4 , I chose to save that, till a basis could be laid of , mutual sharing, that is raw, hard and real.
I did not realise I need to present to others like a Polished Politician:
yes - the abject state of this Reserve, has been festering for years, HoWEVER WE have a plan over the next 2 years, to turn it into, a Butterfly Reserve!"
so I have more work to do.
i want to enncourage all 4'sx to turn to their Higher Power, and themselves, for Life !!!!!!!!!!!!!
few will ever undersrand.
and so John Lenon is shot
Bob Dylan in dark moments makes a pact with the Devil, johnny Depp goes through hell over the narcissistic woman, abusing him, saying, it's all Johnny's fault.
4's have flaws. And growth will remedy feelings of sadness for ourselves.
growth will help us to understand and connect with, those who want to accept, that the truth about our self pity, is often due to our percrptions, No One Understands. Nor does anyone have the love or devition, to dit with these heavier emotions, sisde by side with P J's, A Cubber, and quiet reflective talk.
one with the other.