I think what you have said makes a good point; however, as an ESFP, I genuinely don't care if it is small talk as long as it's in good spirits and doesn't feel like a dry conversation or I feel like I can't say much on the matter. from my personal experiences, I have had several deep conversations with a lot of types (mainly from my INFJ sister and a few from my INTP dad and his colleagues whenever I was invited.) and, in short, the ones I enjoyed the most were the ones I got to say something or I knew what was going on (most of the ones with my sister). But in the matter of small talk, I remember talking to a group of teenagers who were at least two years my senior. And, let me tell you, the small talk was horrible. But I think the reason was that I couldn't add anything to it and though I was able to get a little information about them, there wasn't the feeling of excitement or relief that I would usually get out of a conversation. So, in short, I think the SF types, in general, do not care too much about what goes in the conversation. xSFJs more so than xSFPs because the xSFJs have strong Fe in combination with Si so technically, they would be okay with it because that is what is socially or accepted as how to appeal to others emotionally which, ironically, works out for them because society tends to favor Si and can tolerate Fe because it is very similar to Te in that it seeks order, in a sense, but more in the emotional realm and it also seeks a form of validation. While the xSFPs, because they have Strong Se and Fi, I think that they would not be as thrilled with small talk as long as they get a thrill out of it.
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I think what you have said makes a good point; however, as an ESFP, I genuinely don't care if it is small talk as long as it's in good spirits and doesn't feel like a dry conversation or I feel like I can't say much on the matter. from my personal experiences, I have had several deep conversations with a lot of types (mainly from my INFJ sister and a few from my INTP dad and his colleagues whenever I was invited.) and, in short, the ones I enjoyed the most were the ones I got to say something or I knew what was going on (most of the ones with my sister). But in the matter of small talk, I remember talking to a group of teenagers who were at least two years my senior. And, let me tell you, the small talk was horrible. But I think the reason was that I couldn't add anything to it and though I was able to get a little information about them, there wasn't the feeling of excitement or relief that I would usually get out of a conversation. So, in short, I think the SF types, in general, do not care too much about what goes in the conversation. xSFJs more so than xSFPs because the xSFJs have strong Fe in combination with Si so technically, they would be okay with it because that is what is socially or accepted as how to appeal to others emotionally which, ironically, works out for them because society tends to favor Si and can tolerate Fe because it is very similar to Te in that it seeks order, in a sense, but more in the emotional realm and it also seeks a form of validation. While the xSFPs, because they have Strong Se and Fi, I think that they would not be as thrilled with small talk as long as they get a thrill out of it.