This is based on my personal experience that led from moderate success to addiction to success coaching addicts-
We're motivated by acknlowdement and excitement of our ideas and cool shit we do, so it can be very painful to always get the "You're great, but...", especially by loved ones. Then the kick in the shin is this prevalent thought by others that "Look at what this person can do without structure or discipline...I'll be the one to help!" We tend to attract people who want to save us, because it's what we believe. "If only I had the discipline of Joe Millionaire... I'd take over the world". It's what we are told from day one of our lives. We frustrate people, while also effortlessly being likable and creative... talk show, writer, and group facilitator!
Rehab changed my life the second I walked in and that personality people tried to fix, was now free to be me. People flocked to me and were in aww. Each day a new talent would show up and people just wanted to be around me. There was this freedom I'll never forget, but also structure and support. The ONE thing you need IS support. Someone that says "you're crushing it! The money part, we'll figure it out. What'd YOU think you need?" - Let's say you answer "a business coach" - "Okay, I'm willing to loan you $5k. The only stipulation is for you to hire the coach YOU believe will best for you."
For me, I had to cut all business ties with my Dad, get a loan from mom at 32, then get a business coach that knew how to motivate me, but also hold me accountable as per my personal worth. Same with the therapist I have. Challenges me, but also says "that's who you are, now roll with it..."
Look forward to your thoughts. I know that feeling and tbh taking a few personality tests (now I do it to test em out), has made me realize...I'm not crazy nor is anything wrong with me. I was just meant to be the roller coast of the family ha. Only an ENFP turns rehab into a career path. Yet, noone from rehab is surprised one bit ha. The irony ahh..
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This is based on my personal experience that led from moderate success to addiction to success coaching addicts-
We're motivated by acknlowdement and excitement of our ideas and cool shit we do, so it can be very painful to always get the "You're great, but...", especially by loved ones. Then the kick in the shin is this prevalent thought by others that "Look at what this person can do without structure or discipline...I'll be the one to help!" We tend to attract people who want to save us, because it's what we believe. "If only I had the discipline of Joe Millionaire... I'd take over the world". It's what we are told from day one of our lives. We frustrate people, while also effortlessly being likable and creative... talk show, writer, and group facilitator!
Rehab changed my life the second I walked in and that personality people tried to fix, was now free to be me. People flocked to me and were in aww. Each day a new talent would show up and people just wanted to be around me. There was this freedom I'll never forget, but also structure and support. The ONE thing you need IS support. Someone that says "you're crushing it! The money part, we'll figure it out. What'd YOU think you need?" - Let's say you answer "a business coach" - "Okay, I'm willing to loan you $5k. The only stipulation is for you to hire the coach YOU believe will best for you."
For me, I had to cut all business ties with my Dad, get a loan from mom at 32, then get a business coach that knew how to motivate me, but also hold me accountable as per my personal worth. Same with the therapist I have. Challenges me, but also says "that's who you are, now roll with it..."
Look forward to your thoughts. I know that feeling and tbh taking a few personality tests (now I do it to test em out), has made me realize...I'm not crazy nor is anything wrong with me. I was just meant to be the roller coast of the family ha. Only an ENFP turns rehab into a career path. Yet, noone from rehab is surprised one bit ha. The irony ahh..