Keep trying, it will happen slowly. I have had 3 serious long term relationships. Only one woman was ever able to get me to share. She didn't force it, her relentless persistance every night while we were laying in bed. She is a very intelligent woman to start. She would come at it from different angles. Asking maybe 2-3 questions entirely different than the night before. If she wasn't getting anything she would move on. If she got me to open up she would tread lightly. Depending how intense it got she would not ask anything for a few days. What I mean by intense, you will probably hear things you don't want to hear if you are an emotional person.
I think if you are trying to get someone like this to open up. You need to make them feel safe to start with. Also it seemed to be most effective toward the end of the day as I said. Of course I wanted to share, although these are vulnerabilities and make me look weak. If you get caught sharing any of these things with anyone or use it against them in some way, you are fucked and best off to leave the relationship.
K_Dub (not verified)says...
Keep trying, it will happen slowly. I have had 3 serious long term relationships. Only one woman was ever able to get me to share. She didn't force it, her relentless persistance every night while we were laying in bed. She is a very intelligent woman to start. She would come at it from different angles. Asking maybe 2-3 questions entirely different than the night before. If she wasn't getting anything she would move on. If she got me to open up she would tread lightly. Depending how intense it got she would not ask anything for a few days. What I mean by intense, you will probably hear things you don't want to hear if you are an emotional person.
I think if you are trying to get someone like this to open up. You need to make them feel safe to start with. Also it seemed to be most effective toward the end of the day as I said. Of course I wanted to share, although these are vulnerabilities and make me look weak. If you get caught sharing any of these things with anyone or use it against them in some way, you are fucked and best off to leave the relationship.