I am a female INTJ and I have been through the same experience you have been, K. I was the head of a rural clinic from Dominican Republic, Santo Domingo Island (a caribbean island), and both female and male coworkers thought that I had an attitude, and that I should stop using my brain and just use my beauty to make people like me. That pissed me off, too bad for them I decided to continue being competent and effective in my job. The nurse even tried to convince the community into demoting me, which she did not achieved as I was complimented by my superiors for my good job. Production increased 8 times during my management, to the point that they would rather get rid of her than me, but getting rid of her was hard due to her politician relatives, so she kept her job. I was too much for the staff, said the employees. I asked them what was the part that was "too much" for them, and they answered that my personality was too strong and intimidating, that they looked like less besides me. I answered that I just do my job, and told them that they should just be themselves around me as long as the job gets done (and done right), I told them that I am just like everyone else, just that what I think and say are solid ideas and arguments that I will not ignore without valid reasons. Of course, some employees passed the majority of the time doing nothing, so of course even the neighbor's cat looked more competent besides them. The contract was for 1 year, so when it was time to leave the clinic, the superiors offered me a higher salary if I stayed as the boss of the clinic, which I refused because it did not go with my life plans nor did I liked the work environment, it needed too much improvement and the employess were not ready nor willing to improve. Months later, the community called me telling me that the clinic was doing terrible, production decreased, every boss they hired quitted within 2-3 months, and asked me to return. But I had to refuse again, this was not a matter of pride or arrogance but convenience. That job was not for someone that wanted to achieve economic stability nor will it allow you to grow intellectually and as a person. Today my job is way better, it allows me study and improve professionally, at the same time that supports me economically.
K, I don't know if your current job is finally fulfilling for you, I didn't told you the whole story (the parts where I was discriminated and abused heavily during two previous jobs) because this comment is long enough already, but I just want you to know that you don't need to change drastically just to accommodate people's preferences, please keep being the great woman you are, you will eventually find people that can get along with the way you are.
我希望我能和你聊天使用WhatsApp或天空pe, I have never met other INTJs, I wish I could have a conversation with all the INTJs that have posted comments in this website.
I apologize for any grammar mistakes, English is not my native language, any correction is truly appreciated.
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I am a female INTJ and I have been through the same experience you have been, K. I was the head of a rural clinic from Dominican Republic, Santo Domingo Island (a caribbean island), and both female and male coworkers thought that I had an attitude, and that I should stop using my brain and just use my beauty to make people like me. That pissed me off, too bad for them I decided to continue being competent and effective in my job. The nurse even tried to convince the community into demoting me, which she did not achieved as I was complimented by my superiors for my good job. Production increased 8 times during my management, to the point that they would rather get rid of her than me, but getting rid of her was hard due to her politician relatives, so she kept her job. I was too much for the staff, said the employees. I asked them what was the part that was "too much" for them, and they answered that my personality was too strong and intimidating, that they looked like less besides me. I answered that I just do my job, and told them that they should just be themselves around me as long as the job gets done (and done right), I told them that I am just like everyone else, just that what I think and say are solid ideas and arguments that I will not ignore without valid reasons. Of course, some employees passed the majority of the time doing nothing, so of course even the neighbor's cat looked more competent besides them. The contract was for 1 year, so when it was time to leave the clinic, the superiors offered me a higher salary if I stayed as the boss of the clinic, which I refused because it did not go with my life plans nor did I liked the work environment, it needed too much improvement and the employess were not ready nor willing to improve. Months later, the community called me telling me that the clinic was doing terrible, production decreased, every boss they hired quitted within 2-3 months, and asked me to return. But I had to refuse again, this was not a matter of pride or arrogance but convenience. That job was not for someone that wanted to achieve economic stability nor will it allow you to grow intellectually and as a person. Today my job is way better, it allows me study and improve professionally, at the same time that supports me economically.
K, I don't know if your current job is finally fulfilling for you, I didn't told you the whole story (the parts where I was discriminated and abused heavily during two previous jobs) because this comment is long enough already, but I just want you to know that you don't need to change drastically just to accommodate people's preferences, please keep being the great woman you are, you will eventually find people that can get along with the way you are.
我希望我能和你聊天使用WhatsApp或天空pe, I have never met other INTJs, I wish I could have a conversation with all the INTJs that have posted comments in this website.
I apologize for any grammar mistakes, English is not my native language, any correction is truly appreciated.