I am extremely grateful I found this article. I am a 30 year old male on the California coast who works in construction, an environment where suppressing emotion until an outburst is standard. I am a hard worker when I feel proud of my job, did well in school given the minimal effort I put into it, have a good family, and am baffled daily by the way I feel or react to things. This article has lifted some major fog in my thoughts, and I can identify very closely with some honest individuals who've left helpful comments. Being thought to have borderline personality or some mood disorder, i recently took a personality test as honestly and quickly as possible to avoid overthinking, and the results were intp, 60-70% both introvert and intuitive, half and half think/feel, and around 85% both prospecting and turbulent, which seems like a contradiction to me. For the first time in my life as far as I can think, other than parts of songs in an endless search to describe or decipher my emotions, I felt like I wasn't alone. As quickly as I felt this relief, i was filled with doubt that wasn't a product of my own doing for once. A friend who studies the personality types recreationally feels I am not this type. He feels this because I am not "robotic, or cold. Far too emotional."
When he expressed this to me, I really had no reason to object, though I felt defensive. Possibly I was afraid to find a different, less flattering(in my mind) truth. The discrepancies in advice given and personal action taken in emotionally driven situations came to mind. Very different. And within the past few years, I've stopped internalizing much of my emotion after an event where I couldn't keep it in. So much so, I can unfortunately shed a tear very easily now.
The next day, another thought surfaced. Since the emotional leak that started a flood, I feel I've been more receptive and open minded to the emotions of others, as well as being able to identify possible reasons my peer or their counterpart are feeling/acting a certain way. Much of the time, I feel I am discovering or realizing these things as I explain, that I couldn't single these thoughts out in my head without an actual situation in front of me. The same occurs with my own emotional situations, only after it happens and mostly while explaining/complaining to 一个人。现在发生的!我仍然不能stop from being overly upset over small disappointments, saying things with a sharp tongue out of anger that I will torture myself over later, or taking on a heavy emotion of a loved one and feeling selfish about it but was interpreted as "their rock". I think letting my emotions out, knowing people with a career in psychiatric care, and the observance of mental illness in my family have all opened many closed doors in my mind and have helped with my own emotional issues.
Sorry for rambling. Thanks to comments like the extremely negative, possibly misworded (ironically, and depending on intended recipient) comment before mine, I would normally rewrite much of this and eventually not even post, but maybe someone like myself will feel better reading it. I feel my constant trying to figure out, understand, and harness my emotions that possibly cannot be speaks on my personality type. And though this was the first or second result after searching "can intp's be emotional" , I had not seen more than a brief paragraph touching on this subject. Much of my life, I have acted out of fear and insecurity. Battling depression and addiction for half of it has not been helpful. I've earned and lost great opportunities, careers, relationships, and have never felt like I was doing well enough to enjoy any of it yet. I've been accused or even prided myself (in the accusation) immaturely of being unemotional or insensitive. All while being floored by that perceptionand feeling the exact opposite is true. I have asked myself angrily why I don't love someone back or why very hurtful things to say generate in my mind that I wish never did for fear of verbalization under duress..... I regrettably lost the pinpointed place where I wanted to end up in this response, but this article and these comments have given me a huge shove closer to my own happiness and understanding how to achieve it by first knowing who I am. I will continue trying to understand and express emotion in a healthy way, but will now stop trying to curb or be additionally upset about having these emotions. Any objections, insight, or thoughts will surely be read and appreciated. Well, I've overstayed my welcome, but feel ssoooooo much better. Thanks?
Justin r. (not verified)says...
I am extremely grateful I found this article. I am a 30 year old male on the California coast who works in construction, an environment where suppressing emotion until an outburst is standard. I am a hard worker when I feel proud of my job, did well in school given the minimal effort I put into it, have a good family, and am baffled daily by the way I feel or react to things. This article has lifted some major fog in my thoughts, and I can identify very closely with some honest individuals who've left helpful comments. Being thought to have borderline personality or some mood
disorder, i recently took a personality test as honestly and quickly as possible to avoid overthinking, and the results were intp, 60-70% both introvert and intuitive, half and half think/feel, and around 85% both prospecting and turbulent, which
seems like a contradiction to me. For the first time in my life as far as I can think, other than parts of songs in an endless
search to describe or decipher my emotions, I felt like I wasn't alone. As quickly as I felt this relief, i was filled with doubt that wasn't a product of my
own doing for once. A friend who studies the personality types recreationally feels I am not this type. He feels this because I am not "robotic, or cold. Far too emotional."
When he expressed this to me, I really had no reason to object, though I felt defensive. Possibly I was afraid to find a
different, less flattering(in my mind) truth. The discrepancies in advice given and personal action taken in emotionally driven situations came to mind. Very different. And within the past few years, I've stopped internalizing much of my emotion after an event where I couldn't keep it in. So much so, I can unfortunately shed a tear very easily now.
The next day, another thought surfaced. Since the emotional leak that started a flood, I feel I've been more receptive and open minded to the emotions of others, as well as being able to identify possible reasons my peer or their counterpart are feeling/acting a certain way. Much of the time, I feel I am discovering or realizing these things as I explain, that I couldn't single these thoughts out in my head without an actual situation in front of me. The same occurs with my own emotional situations, only after it happens and mostly while explaining/complaining to
一个人。现在发生的!我仍然不能stop from being overly upset over small disappointments, saying things with a sharp tongue out of anger that I will torture myself over later, or taking on a heavy emotion of a loved one and feeling selfish about it but was interpreted as "their rock". I think letting my emotions out, knowing people with a career in psychiatric care, and the
observance of mental illness in my family have all opened many closed doors in my mind and have helped with my own emotional issues.
Sorry for rambling. Thanks to comments like the extremely negative, possibly misworded (ironically, and depending on intended recipient) comment before mine, I would normally rewrite much of
this and eventually not even post, but maybe someone like myself will feel better reading it. I feel my constant trying to figure out, understand, and harness my emotions that possibly cannot be speaks on my personality type. And though this was the first or second result after searching "can intp's be emotional" , I had not seen more than a brief paragraph touching on this subject. Much of my life, I have acted out of fear and insecurity. Battling depression and addiction for half of it has not been helpful. I've earned and lost great opportunities, careers, relationships, and have never felt like I was doing well enough to enjoy any of it yet. I've been accused or even prided myself (in the accusation) immaturely of being unemotional or insensitive. All while being floored by that perceptionand feeling the exact opposite is true. I have asked myself angrily why I don't love someone back or why very hurtful things to say generate in my mind that I wish never did for fear of verbalization under duress..... I regrettably lost the pinpointed place where I wanted to end up in this response, but this article and these comments have given me a huge shove closer to my own happiness and understanding how to achieve it by first knowing who I am. I will continue trying to understand and express emotion in a healthy way, but will now stop trying to curb or be additionally upset about having these emotions. Any objections, insight, or thoughts will surely be read and appreciated. Well, I've overstayed my welcome, but feel ssoooooo much better. Thanks?