这里是几个是的我已经吸取了教训rs ago. These needy friends are not interested in solutions to their problems. They are not bending your ear to find a way out of their constant, incessant drama... they're venting and asking for your advice because it gives them what they want -- attention. Needy people have holes in their souls, and they want to fill the hole by draining you. And the hole can never be filled! You will become resentful, exhausted, and angry in the end.
Needy people are broken records because they focus externally instead of doing what they really need to be doing -- taking a good, hard look at themselves with honesty. They'll loop endlessly in their own pain and make demands on you all the while. And you'll suffer for it, as long as you allow it.
My friendship with the needy friend ended almost 5 years ago, and it was an enormous relief. I never realized how much her self-centered neediness was weighing me down. From what I've recently found out, she's turned into a bigger mess and I can't help but feel I dodged a bullet.
If the relationship feels wrong, end it before it gets ugly.
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这里是几个是的我已经吸取了教训rs ago. These needy friends are not interested in solutions to their problems. They are not bending your ear to find a way out of their constant, incessant drama... they're venting and asking for your advice because it gives them what they want -- attention. Needy people have holes in their souls, and they want to fill the hole by draining you. And the hole can never be filled! You will become resentful, exhausted, and angry in the end.
Needy people are broken records because they focus externally instead of doing what they really need to be doing -- taking a good, hard look at themselves with honesty. They'll loop endlessly in their own pain and make demands on you all the while. And you'll suffer for it, as long as you allow it.
My friendship with the needy friend ended almost 5 years ago, and it was an enormous relief. I never realized how much her self-centered neediness was weighing me down. From what I've recently found out, she's turned into a bigger mess and I can't help but feel I dodged a bullet.
If the relationship feels wrong, end it before it gets ugly.