Although this blog has not been commented on in over a year, I wanted to say for all of the newbies on this journey of self-discovery (like me - I only very recently took the MBTI test) that it is possible to become more flexible with practice. I am also natural (INF)J who has learned to cope with uncertainty in my college years with "optimistic pessimism." Not as young as age 10, but during college, when my friends had a wide range of personalities that required flexibility in planning. It was a good introduction to what parenthood would be like :) My second husband was a group package of three, two of them being under 9 years of age at the time. Not having children of my own, it was an eye-opening (and at times difficult) learning experience. Here is what I've figured out for trips in particular - research at least a few group activities, ask them to pick a few they would like to do, and schedule them. Leave perceiving time as well, and accept that you may not know what you will be doing at every moment - but at least you have an outline.
Arborgirlsays...
Although this blog has not been commented on in over a year, I wanted to say for all of the newbies on this journey of self-discovery (like me - I only very recently took the MBTI test) that it is possible to become more flexible with practice. I am also natural (INF)J who has learned to cope with uncertainty in my college years with "optimistic pessimism." Not as young as age 10, but during college, when my friends had a wide range of personalities that required flexibility in planning. It was a good introduction to what parenthood would be like :) My second husband was a group package of three, two of them being under 9 years of age at the time. Not having children of my own, it was an eye-opening (and at times difficult) learning experience. Here is what I've figured out for trips in particular - research at least a few group activities, ask them to pick a few they would like to do, and schedule them. Leave perceiving time as well, and accept that you may not know what you will be doing at every moment - but at least you have an outline.