Hi Rachel - I have totally been in your boat regarding vacations. My best worst story is the time my husband and I and our FOUR kids went to Colorado and spent literally half the night looking for a hotel room and the other half "sleeping" in our van... That was over 20 years ago and I have learned a few things since then.
Here's what we do now. I plan the vacations but don't tell him. It's all a serendipitous surprise for him then and I feel secure that we will not sleep in the car. Usually I plan some flex times with options and I stay open to spontaneous choices, but the structure of my plan is there to fall back on. This seems to work for both of us.
I love what you wrote about being flexible - kind of like ""the plan is to take a break from planning" and I also love pushing out the worst case scenarios to bring some clarity and reality.
Cindy Scott (not verified)says...
Hi Rachel - I have totally been in your boat regarding vacations. My best worst story is the time my husband and I and our FOUR kids went to Colorado and spent literally half the night looking for a hotel room and the other half "sleeping" in our van... That was over 20 years ago and I have learned a few things since then.
Here's what we do now. I plan the vacations but don't tell him. It's all a serendipitous surprise for him then and I feel secure that we will not sleep in the car. Usually I plan some flex times with options and I stay open to spontaneous choices, but the structure of my plan is there to fall back on. This seems to work for both of us.
I love what you wrote about being flexible - kind of like ""the plan is to take a break from planning" and I also love pushing out the worst case scenarios to bring some clarity and reality.
Hope you had a great trip!