It's hard to advise without knowing more about what happened between you, or what state the friendship was left in afterward. I haven't read a lot about how to placate the stereotypical INTJ, but speaking for myself as one of them ...
*For someone who loves having arguments (and winning them) as much as INTJs do, "you were right" is an especially delicious concession. You might try saying that if you can do so honestly. If you can't go that far, just demonstrating a greater level of respect for whatever your friend's viewpoint was might help. *Deal directly with the actual issue that caused offense. Don't try to smooth things over with "peace offerings" like chocolate ... to me, at least, that feels like being bought off. An apology and meaningful promise to do better is all I really want when I've been upset. (Again, I'm not certain this is a *typical* INTJ trait, so your mileage may vary -- consider how your particular friend seems to feel about gifts.)
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It's hard to advise without knowing more about what happened between you, or what state the friendship was left in afterward. I haven't read a lot about how to placate the stereotypical INTJ, but speaking for myself as one of them ...
*For someone who loves having arguments (and winning them) as much as INTJs do, "you were right" is an especially delicious concession. You might try saying that if you can do so honestly. If you can't go that far, just demonstrating a greater level of respect for whatever your friend's viewpoint was might help.
*Deal directly with the actual issue that caused offense. Don't try to smooth things over with "peace offerings" like chocolate ... to me, at least, that feels like being bought off. An apology and meaningful promise to do better is all I really want when I've been upset. (Again, I'm not certain this is a *typical* INTJ trait, so your mileage may vary -- consider how your particular friend seems to feel about gifts.)