I'm an INTJ female & i've always struggled to either make friends in the first place or maintain the few friendships i do have. I've honestly now found myself with no friends currently, but i have my boyfriend, who shares my type. He is the only person I believe truely understands me. Funnily enough though, most people who have the misfortune to meet me think i'm a bitch, evil, cold and all sorts of other things but they love my boyfriend? He's nice & caring but still logical - the perfect man. We share a lot of similar traits, but it's more readily acceptable in him than it is in me i suspect. My boyfriend's Mother (ESFJ) has even stated to him that she dislikes my confidence and thinks i'm very cold. My own Mother (INFJ) has stated that I have no empathy etc etc. Extroverted feelers (either dom or aux) seem to really dislike me & I don't much like wasting my time on them. I also suspect in myself that i have a really strong Fi function. It's almost as if it's as strong as Te in me, is this possible? Thought for so long I was an INFP because of this, but am way too callous/abrasive. I'm very close with my brother & have been since we were really little (everyone thought we were twins) & he is an INFP. Could being close with an INFP strengthen my Fi? Any answers on any of this would be very much appreciated.
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I'm an INTJ female & i've always struggled to either make friends in the first place or maintain the few friendships i do have. I've honestly now found myself with no friends currently, but i have my boyfriend, who shares my type. He is the only person I believe truely understands me. Funnily enough though, most people who have the misfortune to meet me think i'm a bitch, evil, cold and all sorts of other things but they love my boyfriend? He's nice & caring but still logical - the perfect man. We share a lot of similar traits, but it's more readily acceptable in him than it is in me i suspect. My boyfriend's Mother (ESFJ) has even stated to him that she dislikes my confidence and thinks i'm very cold. My own Mother (INFJ) has stated that I have no empathy etc etc. Extroverted feelers (either dom or aux) seem to really dislike me & I don't much like wasting my time on them.
I also suspect in myself that i have a really strong Fi function. It's almost as if it's as strong as Te in me, is this possible? Thought for so long I was an INFP because of this, but am way too callous/abrasive. I'm very close with my brother & have been since we were really little (everyone thought we were twins) & he is an INFP. Could being close with an INFP strengthen my Fi? Any answers on any of this would be very much appreciated.