Such a good article and comments. I am a 61 yro INTJ female and feel the same as the other older commenters. Very difficult to find friends at all but especially at our age. Especially after losing one of my very few long term close friends, who is of different personality type. A situation arose in which we did not see eye to eye, where both of us were hit in our respective weak spots; but after trying repeatedly to iron things out I realized I could not trust her to respect my need for privacy. My only other friends live far away, as I have spent my life in the isolated position of a pastor's wife, an environment that is tough for any introvert, let alone a female INTJ. My husband is my real best friend, and I've done really well with contibuting to the church community in my own way, and am pleased with that, as well as following my own creative pursuits; but I am pretty burned out by the intensely social way of life. To hang out with the couple of long-distance friends who do get me is bliss but happens rarely.
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Such a good article and comments. I am a 61 yro INTJ female and feel the same as the other older commenters. Very difficult to find friends at all but especially at our age. Especially after losing one of my very few long term close friends, who is of different personality type. A situation arose in which we did not see eye to eye, where both of us were hit in our respective weak spots; but after trying repeatedly to iron things out I realized I could not trust her to respect my need for privacy. My only other friends live far away, as I have spent my life in the isolated position of a pastor's wife, an environment that is tough for any introvert, let alone a female INTJ. My husband is my real best friend, and I've done really well with contibuting to the church community in my own way, and am pleased with that, as well as following my own creative pursuits; but I am pretty burned out by the intensely social way of life. To hang out with the couple of long-distance friends who do get me is bliss but happens rarely.