Narcissism has nothing to do with appearance, it's a personality disorder. You can be who you want to be & look the way you like looking. I think the point is that it 8s not a priority. Learn something of value v. play with makeup, INTJs will USUALLY pick the choice that adds the greatest value to them as a person. I am usually a good looking woman, but I just finished law school & gained a sh*t ton of weight because of this very choice. However, I realize that now I need to put energy into maintaining that part of my life because life is a balance of all of these things. Time is my only limit. I am beginning to think that INTJs are more self conscious than there's owning up to.... Could this be something worth looking into?? I will need to think on this. A box is never a good place to be, so take it easy on yourself.
I, too, suffer from not wanting to date. This is interesting that you have mentioned this. Attractive and intelligent with a personality, it was easy to be approached, but RARELY by someone with a brain AND a personality. I have long dated good looking men & been burnt by their bullshit ignorance. I'm done dating because men only want sex & WE have to always be sexy - WTF is this about?!? Because let's not act like he's NOT going to cheat at some point due to his inability to control his sexual urges, like some animal. This entire dynamic is unfair to ALL women & men just say they weren't thinking or that it was a mistake. Insane for any woman to put her energy into this just for these same results. I would like to date, but more & more I see men as evil beings with no self control. I have an entire relationship with a man before he even knows my name & I've already decided it's pointless because it's so predictable! It's so insanely predictable that I'm legitimately surprised women continue to have children.
All of what I just put out there is to say that I have way more issues with dating than I do with finding a female "friend" because let's face it, I'm smarter than she is & so who cares if she's a bit dim, at least she's not trying to ruin my life with lies & being a man.
I try to remind myself lately that I don't want to live my life like a sad robot...
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Narcissism has nothing to do with appearance, it's a personality disorder. You can be who you want to be & look the way you like looking. I think the point is that it 8s not a priority. Learn something of value v. play with makeup, INTJs will USUALLY pick the choice that adds the greatest value to them as a person. I am usually a good looking woman, but I just finished law school & gained a sh*t ton of weight because of this very choice. However, I realize that now I need to put energy into maintaining that part of my life because life is a balance of all of these things. Time is my only limit. I am beginning to think that INTJs are more self conscious than there's owning up to.... Could this be something worth looking into?? I will need to think on this. A box is never a good place to be, so take it easy on yourself.
I, too, suffer from not wanting to date. This is interesting that you have mentioned this. Attractive and intelligent with a personality, it was easy to be approached, but RARELY by someone with a brain AND a personality. I have long dated good looking men & been burnt by their bullshit ignorance. I'm done dating because men only want sex & WE have to always be sexy - WTF is this about?!? Because let's not act like he's NOT going to cheat at some point due to his inability to control his sexual urges, like some animal. This entire dynamic is unfair to ALL women & men just say they weren't thinking or that it was a mistake. Insane for any woman to put her energy into this just for these same results. I would like to date, but more & more I see men as evil beings with no self control. I have an entire relationship with a man before he even knows my name & I've already decided it's pointless because it's so predictable! It's so insanely predictable that I'm legitimately surprised women continue to have children.
All of what I just put out there is to say that I have way more issues with dating than I do with finding a female "friend" because let's face it, I'm smarter than she is & so who cares if she's a bit dim, at least she's not trying to ruin my life with lies & being a man.
I try to remind myself lately that I don't want to live my life like a sad robot...