I am an INTP, so, yes, quite an awkward person. I'd love to apply some of these tips in communication, but I kinda doubt. The thing is: while some people respond very positively to compliments, other may feel uncomfortable because of being complimented (or at least by being complimented by certain people). They most likely love to hear heartfelt compliments from their loved ones and intimate friends, but when an acquaintance says sth. like "Your new hairstyle looks awesome", they think a person who is complimenting them is just seeking for cheap ways to be liked be the compliment recepient instead of saying sth. more interesting and meaningful. Also, even those who respond positively to all those casual niceties might not receive them well from an awkward introvert. They might think that you just want something from them, or are more deeply interested in them than you actually are, because they know that otherwise you wouldn't bother saying such things. None of these things have ever been said to my face, but I read such complaints in the internet multiple times, posted by people who were seemingly very put off by all that small talk and niceness, so I am really concerned to try these means myself.
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I am an INTP, so, yes, quite an awkward person. I'd love to apply some of these tips in communication, but I kinda doubt. The thing is: while some people respond very positively to compliments, other may feel uncomfortable because of being complimented (or at least by being complimented by certain people). They most likely love to hear heartfelt compliments from their loved ones and intimate friends, but when an acquaintance says sth. like "Your new hairstyle looks awesome", they think a person who is complimenting them is just seeking for cheap ways to be liked be the compliment recepient instead of saying sth. more interesting and meaningful. Also, even those who respond positively to all those casual niceties might not receive them well from an awkward introvert. They might think that you just want something from them, or are more deeply interested in them than you actually are, because they know that otherwise you wouldn't bother saying such things.
None of these things have ever been said to my face, but I read such complaints in the internet multiple times, posted by people who were seemingly very put off by all that small talk and niceness, so I am really concerned to try these means myself.