I agree completely that a different process must be honoured. But, sometimes, INTJs take this too far. It is right to be cautious before entering a relationship. It is also right that some objective criteria needs to be evaluated to determine compatibility before entering into a relationship. But, once the initial screening has taken place and most criteria met, only time spent with a person can help you gauge long-term compatibility. Turning it around in your own head for years, before making a move, is a colossal waste of time for all concerned. A relationship requires some level of nurture (I am an INTP, but even I know this) and a lack of ego and arrogance, specially in the initial stages. If you starve it, as you turn around scenarios in your mind, it will surely die. The "I'm so great and I know what is good for me" is self-defeating when it comes to INTJs and romance. INTJs are perfectly capable of cutting off their noses to spite their faces and that's why you need condescending blog posts to give you a perspective that you clearly lack.
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I agree completely that a different process must be honoured. But, sometimes, INTJs take this too far. It is right to be cautious before entering a relationship. It is also right that some objective criteria needs to be evaluated to determine compatibility before entering into a relationship. But, once the initial screening has taken place and most criteria met, only time spent with a person can help you gauge long-term compatibility. Turning it around in your own head for years, before making a move, is a colossal waste of time for all concerned. A relationship requires some level of nurture (I am an INTP, but even I know this) and a lack of ego and arrogance, specially in the initial stages. If you starve it, as you turn around scenarios in your mind, it will surely die. The "I'm so great and I know what is good for me" is self-defeating when it comes to INTJs and romance. INTJs are perfectly capable of cutting off their noses to spite their faces and that's why you need condescending blog posts to give you a perspective that you clearly lack.