I’m so lost. I’ve read all the comments and so so many resonated. I’m a well-developed INTJ (so much so I can occasionally test as an INFJ), and I’m very good at playing the game of dating. But I completely shy away from intimacy and romance when it comes down to it, particularly physical intimacy. And it feels dishonest to play the game - like I’m using my insight into others for personal, manipulative ends. Rarely do I feel like I get to be true to myself in dating.
I, like so many of you, value integrity, honesty, thoroughness, self-reflection and am acutely aware and critical of how others fit or don’t fit. I’m also sensitive to hurting or misleading others and it takes me so long to really trust someone enough to let them in.
I’m 28, in my dream job, living in a new city, and wondering if I’m letting my love life expire. Am I waiting for a perfect match that will never show up or doesn’t exist? Am I blocking love through cold analysis and a misplaced conviction I’m right?
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I’m so lost. I’ve read all the comments and so so many resonated. I’m a well-developed INTJ (so much so I can occasionally test as an INFJ), and I’m very good at playing the game of dating. But I completely shy away from intimacy and romance when it comes down to it, particularly physical intimacy. And it feels dishonest to play the game - like I’m using my insight into others for personal, manipulative ends. Rarely do I feel like I get to be true to myself in dating.
I, like so many of you, value integrity, honesty, thoroughness, self-reflection and am acutely aware and critical of how others fit or don’t fit. I’m also sensitive to hurting or misleading others and it takes me so long to really trust someone enough to let them in.
I’m 28, in my dream job, living in a new city, and wondering if I’m letting my love life expire. Am I waiting for a perfect match that will never show up or doesn’t exist? Am I blocking love through cold analysis and a misplaced conviction I’m right?
INTJ’s and INTJ Lovers, please advise.
(And thanks for letting me be this vulnerable.)