I am an ENFJ who has been dating an INTJ for a year and I'm giving up. I love the idiot but I need him to show his love and appreciation for me and he simply can't figure out how to do it in a authentic way that makes me feel unloved and insecure although overall I am a confident person. I'm breaking up with him because he has no ways to deal with any non positive feelings I have and it seems like he just expects me to put them away and get back to being happy without any part in it. I told him this week that it was the 3 year anniversary of my dad's death and he struggled to show any empathy. I love him and really wanted to be with him, but at the same time watching him struggle so hard just to show (to me) basic emotions, I'm planning to end the relationship. Oddly he's the only man ever thought of marrying, but its goodbye.
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I am an ENFJ who has been dating an INTJ for a year and I'm giving up. I love the idiot but I need him to show his love and appreciation for me and he simply can't figure out how to do it in a authentic way that makes me feel unloved and insecure although overall I am a confident person. I'm breaking up with him because he has no ways to deal with any non positive feelings I have and it seems like he just expects me to put them away and get back to being happy without any part in it. I told him this week that it was the 3 year anniversary of my dad's death and he struggled to show any empathy. I love him and really wanted to be with him, but at the same time watching him struggle so hard just to show (to me) basic emotions, I'm planning to end the relationship. Oddly he's the only man ever thought of marrying, but its goodbye.