My best fit type is INFP. My wife's type is ESFJ. When our first daughter was born, my wife had a reliable job that she enjoyed, that paid well, and that offered good benefits. I was between jobs (and I'm still not sure what I should do when I grow up). It made sense for me to stop looking for work as the birth day was pending and simply concentrate on becoming the stay-at-home parent. I was able to be a stay-at-home dad for 2+ years until my wife lost her job and took a new one at roughly 60% of her previous pay and reduced benefits (especially health insurance). Finances forced me back into the workplace. I highly prize the time I had raising our first, interacting on a daily basis with her, sharing the wonder of the world around her. It was the best job I've ever had though the pay was lousy. I would offer that my ESFJ wife would probably have loved the chance to stay home for at least a year with either/both of our daughters.
I know a family with an INTJ dad and ESFJ mom. They have 5 children of their own (ages range from College grad to elementary school), have hosted numerous foster children, and recently were able to adopt their most recent foster child. Whereas the big family may not seem abnormal for the ESFJ mom (a pediatrician who sees part of her calling as being a mother of many children), the INTJ dad loves their large family, too. He is and has always been an active parent within his family (not a "You want lots of kids? OK, then you take care of them.").
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My best fit type is INFP. My wife's type is ESFJ. When our first daughter was born, my wife had a reliable job that she enjoyed, that paid well, and that offered good benefits. I was between jobs (and I'm still not sure what I should do when I grow up). It made sense for me to stop looking for work as the birth day was pending and simply concentrate on becoming the stay-at-home parent. I was able to be a stay-at-home dad for 2+ years until my wife lost her job and took a new one at roughly 60% of her previous pay and reduced benefits (especially health insurance). Finances forced me back into the workplace. I highly prize the time I had raising our first, interacting on a daily basis with her, sharing the wonder of the world around her. It was the best job I've ever had though the pay was lousy.
I would offer that my ESFJ wife would probably have loved the chance to stay home for at least a year with either/both of our daughters.
I know a family with an INTJ dad and ESFJ mom. They have 5 children of their own (ages range from College grad to elementary school), have hosted numerous foster children, and recently were able to adopt their most recent foster child. Whereas the big family may not seem abnormal for the ESFJ mom (a pediatrician who sees part of her calling as being a mother of many children), the INTJ dad loves their large family, too. He is and has always been an active parent within his family (not a "You want lots of kids? OK, then you take care of them.").