Female INTJ. I had some female friends, but the older we got the more alienated I felt around them. Then something suddenly switched and I also started hating myself and developed anorexia. Later I moved schools and found it extremely difficult to make friends, partly because I was still anorexic and probably didn't get to make a great first impression. I was painfully shy, anxious and avoidant.
Many people seemed to be scared of me and I had no idea why. This wouldn't have been down to my thin appearance alone - which probably was a factor, as I heard that one girl said I "looked dead" - because someone I never spoke to, or even had any classes with, thought that I hated her. I had no idea where she would have gotten this idea from. The only judgement I ever made of her was that she seemed quiet, and probably nice.
But I did become friends with one girl, who was an INTP. She was quite unhappy too, and has said many times that she is beyond grateful to have met me - like I am to have met her. And like many female NTPs I've noticed, there's this goofy quality in them which I don't think could ever get tired of. Finding a female INTx, let alone a female NT, was almost literally a life saver. I didn't make friends with any boys. They seemed to avoid me.
I have an INFP older sister. She seemed quite popular with girls and boys(as both friends and boyfriends,) alike, and had a very different experience in her teens than I did. She's always seemed very confident. The stereotype of a "shy INFP" and "assertive, give no shits INTJ" didn't apply to us.
Jannasays...
Female INTJ. I had some female friends, but the older we got the more alienated I felt around them. Then something suddenly switched and I also started hating myself and developed anorexia. Later I moved schools and found it extremely difficult to make friends, partly because I was still anorexic and probably didn't get to make a great first impression. I was painfully shy, anxious and avoidant.
Many people seemed to be scared of me and I had no idea why. This wouldn't have been down to my thin appearance alone - which probably was a factor, as I heard that one girl said I "looked dead" - because someone I never spoke to, or even had any classes with, thought that I hated her. I had no idea where she would have gotten this idea from. The only judgement I ever made of her was that she seemed quiet, and probably nice.
But I did become friends with one girl, who was an INTP. She was quite unhappy too, and has said many times that she is beyond grateful to have met me - like I am to have met her. And like many female NTPs I've noticed, there's this goofy quality in them which I don't think could ever get tired of. Finding a female INTx, let alone a female NT, was almost literally a life saver. I didn't make friends with any boys. They seemed to avoid me.
I have an INFP older sister. She seemed quite popular with girls and boys(as both friends and boyfriends,) alike, and had a very different experience in her teens than I did. She's always seemed very confident. The stereotype of a "shy INFP" and "assertive, give no shits INTJ" didn't apply to us.