I am about as INTJ as one can be. Reading this is both reassuring (familiar) and discouraging (also familiar). I have never understood the ‘how’ when it comes to expressing my romantic / sexual interest in women - and [sadly perhaps] at 46, have yet to do anything to show a woman I want ‘more’ than friendship with her. I have many female mind mates, all 100% platonic - few of whom over the years I have been very interested in. But I’ve never said / done anything to express this. In all honestly I don’t feel I’m any closer to being able to express romantic / sexual interest in women than I did 25 years ago, and at this point sense that in all probability I’ll never be able to. I’ve never actually tried to do so mind you, but then again, no matter how many books I read / videos I watch, I still have no idea *what* to do, or *how* to do it - these things are practically nonsensical to me. Sad - perhaps - but as a rational being, this is my reality whether I like it or not. C’est la vie.
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I am about as INTJ as one can be. Reading this is both reassuring (familiar) and discouraging (also familiar). I have never understood the ‘how’ when it comes to expressing my romantic / sexual interest in women - and [sadly perhaps] at 46, have yet to do anything to show a woman I want ‘more’ than friendship with her. I have many female mind mates, all 100% platonic - few of whom over the years I have been very interested in. But I’ve never said / done anything to express this. In all honestly I don’t feel I’m any closer to being able to express romantic / sexual interest in women than I did 25 years ago, and at this point sense that in all probability I’ll never be able to. I’ve never actually tried to do so mind you, but then again, no matter how many books I read / videos I watch, I still have no idea *what* to do, or *how* to do it - these things are practically nonsensical to me. Sad - perhaps - but as a rational being, this is my reality whether I like it or not. C’est la vie.