My husband is ENFP, and the struggle between us mainly stems from his "gung-ho" attitude and my blunt/permathinking mode. I tend to upset him over things that I think aren't a big deal, and he upsets me with his explosive emotional reactions.
I find his argument illogical, so I tend to exit the argument scratching my head.
I.e.
Husband: "do I look fatter?"
Me: "yes."
Husband: "I've been training a lot though!"
Me: "Yes, but you also drink a lot of beer and binge-eat 5 minutes before bed."
Husband: "no I don't!!"
我:* *”显示了垃圾……Yes, you do."
Husband: "like you're so perfect yourself!"
Me: "...huh?"
Husband: *storms off*
Me: "... huh??"
*1 hour later*
Husband: "I'm sorry."
Me: "OK."
Husband: "you angry?"
Me: "No."
Husband: "you sound angry."
Me: "this is how I sound most of the time."
Not an exaggeration BTW. This is how most of our arguments start and end.
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My husband is ENFP, and the struggle between us mainly stems from his "gung-ho" attitude and my blunt/permathinking mode. I tend to upset him over things that I think aren't a big deal, and he upsets me with his explosive emotional reactions.
I find his argument illogical, so I tend to exit the argument scratching my head.
I.e.
Husband: "do I look fatter?"
Me: "yes."
Husband: "I've been training a lot though!"
Me: "Yes, but you also drink a lot of beer and binge-eat 5 minutes before bed."
Husband: "no I don't!!"
我:* *”显示了垃圾……Yes, you do."
Husband: "like you're so perfect yourself!"
Me: "...huh?"
Husband: *storms off*
Me: "... huh??"
*1 hour later*
Husband: "I'm sorry."
Me: "OK."
Husband: "you angry?"
Me: "No."
Husband: "you sound angry."
Me: "this is how I sound most of the time."
Not an exaggeration BTW. This is how most of our arguments start and end.
I miss being alone and drama-free.