Hi, I'm a male intj 27 old, Software Engineer, I have a wife and a son. My wife is ESTP, and I spent my past 5 years living in hell, I want to give all intj people big advice, when someone doesn't hear, when someone is passive or aggressive and completely never rational, no matter how much you are great in thinking, strategy, solving, making solutions, teach or talk, nothing will work, you are doomed, you are cursed. look at me I'm here trying to find a solution to solve the distance between my wife and me, and let me tell you something, she never cares about it either! she won't ever read this article if I send it to her, or she care at all I'm sad... . and yet she thinks she has done everything she can!!! this is how our life is spent, I give you some examples: 1. when we got the baby, I read many books, and listened to many great world-level professors in this field, my wife never read them and never listened to me, and just did what she thinks is correct!!!! with no proper reading! also, this hobbit of me makes her mad most of the time! 2. I found spots and leaks in our relationship that makes us mad and sad and tried to show her so I made a diagram with great comments she listened to it for 20 minutes and I completely missed that she slept during my speech! 3. I like many good series or movies ex: Chornobyl, lotr, harry potter, flash, arrow, Mr robot, Mr bean, laurel hardy. she but watch ex: Korean series, Turkish love or drama series and that's it, not more, she has no interest in movies mostly, also she never carefully any movie or series always misses scenes, always 4. I love sex, she can be good with one in a year or not at all, at it is real she is not into sex at all!!!! 5. most of the time I'm reading, observing, making solutions, reading the news, trying to find a good restaurant or place, or reading about completely something new, but she always lives on Instagram or reads the lowest level quality story books. 6. she doesn't respect my ideas, or my view, she never asks for it :((( I try to expose myself but it likes I'm talking to myself and walking around the house! and it feels terrible because both I need it and there is no one listening to it :((
so takes it seriously intj people, never ever get in a relationship with ESTP, only we will understand us, for us intp can be a good partner I think
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Hi, I'm a male intj 27 old, Software Engineer, I have a wife and a son.
My wife is ESTP, and I spent my past 5 years living in hell, I want to give all intj people big advice, when someone doesn't hear, when someone is passive or aggressive and completely never rational, no matter how much you are great in thinking, strategy, solving, making solutions, teach or talk, nothing will work, you are doomed, you are cursed. look at me I'm here trying to find a solution to solve the distance between my wife and me, and let me tell you something, she never cares about it either! she won't ever read this article if I send it to her, or she care at all I'm sad... . and yet she thinks she has done everything she can!!! this is how our life is spent, I give you some examples:
1. when we got the baby, I read many books, and listened to many great world-level professors in this field, my wife never read them and never listened to me, and just did what she thinks is correct!!!! with no proper reading! also, this hobbit of me makes her mad most of the time!
2. I found spots and leaks in our relationship that makes us mad and sad and tried to show her so I made a diagram with great comments she listened to it for 20 minutes and I completely missed that she slept during my speech!
3. I like many good series or movies ex: Chornobyl, lotr, harry potter, flash, arrow, Mr robot, Mr bean, laurel hardy. she but watch ex: Korean series, Turkish love or drama series and that's it, not more, she has no interest in movies mostly, also she never carefully any movie or series always misses scenes, always
4. I love sex, she can be good with one in a year or not at all, at it is real she is not into sex at all!!!!
5. most of the time I'm reading, observing, making solutions, reading the news, trying to find a good restaurant or place, or reading about completely something new, but she always lives on Instagram or reads the lowest level quality story books.
6. she doesn't respect my ideas, or my view, she never asks for it :((( I try to expose myself but it likes I'm talking to myself and walking around the house! and it feels terrible because both I need it and there is no one listening to it :((
so takes it seriously intj people, never ever get in a relationship with ESTP, only we will understand us, for us intp can be a good partner I think