嗨，我的名字是乔。我是INTJ。12年前我参加了MBTI测试。我的问题是:在过去的三年里，我已经失去了两份工作。其中一份工作是做预算分析师，我的老板会来到我的办公桌前，扯着嗓子大喊大叫，让所有人都能听到。我告诉她，如果她需要用那种语气跟我说话，我宁愿去她的办公室。她会对我的工作大吼大叫。她会给我发电子邮件，说明她需要什么。我会研究她的请求，并意识到缺少了一些东西，她的请求不会生效。然后，我将重新设计她的请求，使其尽可能接近她的原始请求。 Thinking that I made an improvement on what she was asking for I would hand it in and she would become angry that it was not what she had intended. I would sit and explain it to her so she would understand how the spreadsheet worked. She would sit there and blankly declare, " I don't understand." I would try explaining it again and she would cut me off and rip my work to shreds. It got to the point that working with her would cause me a great deal of anxiety. Here I thought I was doing something to help her by improving upon her request.
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嗨，我的名字是乔。我是INTJ。12年前我参加了MBTI测试。我的问题是:在过去的三年里，我已经失去了两份工作。其中一份工作是做预算分析师，我的老板会来到我的办公桌前，扯着嗓子大喊大叫，让所有人都能听到。我告诉她，如果她需要用那种语气跟我说话，我宁愿去她的办公室。她会对我的工作大吼大叫。她会给我发电子邮件，说明她需要什么。我会研究她的请求，并意识到缺少了一些东西，她的请求不会生效。然后，我将重新设计她的请求，使其尽可能接近她的原始请求。 Thinking that I made an improvement on what she was asking for I would hand it in and she would become angry that it was not what she had intended. I would sit and explain it to her so she would understand how the spreadsheet worked. She would sit there and blankly declare, " I don't understand." I would try explaining it again and she would cut me off and rip my work to shreds. It got to the point that working with her would cause me a great deal of anxiety. Here I thought I was doing something to help her by improving upon her request.
另一份工作本应该是会计职位，但结果却是更多的行政工作(接电话，回复语音邮件，回复电子邮件)，而我最接近于做任何类型的分析的工作就是在月末报告上标出总额，让别人来分析。有一次，我在电脑上保存文件时犯了一个错误。我向我的“经理”寻求帮助，让她知道这是我的错(所以是我的错)。她的回答是这样的:“我不相信你会这么做。我要把我的屎吹到你身上!!”在这两种情况下，我的问题是，我不知道如何在这样的情况下充分回应和保护自己，因为当他们真的发生时，我倾向于内化他们所说的话，然后导致我对做我所做的工作以及与这样的人合作的兴趣下降。在后一种情况下，“经理”在离职面谈中告诉我，“我应该做其他事情;我永远不应该做会计。”如果你能告诉我如何与这样的人和情况打交道，我将不胜感激。谢谢你！