Yes I really relate. As a 52 yo male INFP it has really been a journey. All my life I have felt over sensitive and not- masculine and tried to emulate ESTP types because I thought that was the "goal of a man". I did not even hear of MB until a couple of years ago and it has been transformative to say the least. But for many years I felt like the bookworm on a bus full of rowdy football players and I didn't understand what was wrong with me. I think as I get older and more actualized it really doesn't bother me anymore. It is more about authenticity - I have to be careful of "conforming" to some sort of INFP mold as if all of us should be itinerant poets or something. The pendulum can swing too far in the other direction from hyper-masculine and that is not reality either. About the journey I guess. Thanks great article
Paul INFP (not verified)says...
Yes I really relate. As a 52 yo male INFP it has really been a journey. All my life I have felt over sensitive and not- masculine and tried to emulate ESTP types because I thought that was the "goal of a man". I did not even hear of MB until a couple of years ago and it has been transformative to say the least. But for many years I felt like the bookworm on a bus full of rowdy football players and I didn't understand what was wrong with me. I think as I get older and more actualized it really doesn't bother me anymore. It is more about authenticity - I have to be careful of "conforming" to some sort of INFP mold as if all of us should be itinerant poets or something. The pendulum can swing too far in the other direction from hyper-masculine and that is not reality either. About the journey I guess. Thanks great article