I am a perfectionist. I enjoy it and will admit being one.
I feel enbarrassment to the point of shame if my to me "imperfect" work receives positive comments. Instead, I can appreciate my boss recognizing I wanted to do more but didn't. Rather than praise I prefer being told something like, "I realize you wanted to do an even finer more complete job, but thank you for being on time. We don't need it any more perfect than this. We cant afford any more time." Being honest about the cost of perfectionism helps me adjust down to a more mutually acceptable standard. Besides, I like all these cards out on the table openly.
I do not mind even being kidded as being the one who has drive to keep tweaking a project. I can take teasing more than what I perceive as false praise. Inaccurate compliments grate on me something terrible. They keep running through my mind taking on worse embarrassment the longer I think of them.
The sting lasts because I feel so personally dishonest inside, like I have deceived my boss. I tend to respect my superiors at work thus their comments carry weight. I feel as if I am complicit at deluding them somehow if they praise an unfinished job.
Overall this article was interesting and insightful. I only wanted to add my opinion for what it's worth. . .
Shannon Mitchell (not verified)says...
I am a perfectionist. I enjoy it and will admit being one.
I feel enbarrassment to the point of shame if my to me "imperfect" work receives positive comments. Instead, I can appreciate my boss recognizing I wanted to do more but didn't. Rather than praise I prefer being told something like, "I realize you wanted to do an even finer more complete job, but thank you for being on time. We don't need it any more perfect than this. We cant afford any more time." Being honest about the cost of perfectionism helps me adjust down to a more mutually acceptable standard. Besides, I like all these cards out on the table openly.
I do not mind even being kidded as being the one who has drive to keep tweaking a project. I can take teasing more than what I perceive as false praise. Inaccurate compliments grate on me something terrible. They keep running through my mind taking on worse embarrassment the longer I think of them.
The sting lasts because I feel so personally dishonest inside, like I have deceived my boss. I tend to respect my superiors at work thus their comments carry weight. I feel as if I am complicit at deluding them somehow if they praise an unfinished job.
Overall this article was interesting and insightful. I only wanted to add my opinion for what it's worth. . .