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THE MYERS–BRIGGS "JP PREFERENCE" (JUDGING VSPERCEIVING):NOTES FROM AN INFJ

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"The JP preference shows how a person prefers to deal with theouterworld."—Isabel Briggs Myers,Gifts Differing

Note: As a J, I prefer parallel construction, but throughout my comment below, I reverse Myers's order (JP) above ^ and lead with P (e.g. P/J)—because as an F, I've got other crayons in my crayon box that I like to color with besides my T-crayon (my Thinking-crayon) of standardization. (Hope you got a kick out of that.)

1.Wet Paint or Dry Paint

As an INFJ, I've so far found it pretty easy to distinguish, through conversation and other kinds of interaction (work and play), an INTP from an INTJ.

Especially when it comes to P or J.

I look at it this way. I'm right-handed. But when I play the piano, my left hand does great. I play tennis right-handed, but I also enjoy playing left-handed. I'm not nearly as good playing left-handed, but as recreational tennis goes, I play just fine left-handed.

But here's the thing that we all know: No matter how well I practice and develop my left hand playing the piano and tennis, I will always be right-handed. Which means . . .

My left hand plays the supporting role to the lead role of my right hand.

与拉斐尔Nadal-the右手的国王clay who plays tennis left-handed—that's not something I can hide from my tennis friend on the other side of the net.

She knows.

Ditto with my P and J preference.

I can't hide it.

(And probably, neither can you.)

Myouterworld "let's keep it open-ended and spontaneous" accommodating Perceiving side plays the supporting role to my "let's decide and move on" closure-motivated Judging side.

Because as much as I do like to keep the paint wet, I do so only if it helps buy me time to envision more clearly what to do next, what to decide, toward what I set out to create: a finished painting. (I mean this as a metaphor, but I actually am a painter.) I like wet paint. But you know what I like even more? Dry paint.

Ps像油漆未干。

Js like dry paint.

2. Explore or Score

My goal, especially when it comes to my work, whether self-directed or as a member of a team is simple.

To score.

And you can't score without a goal.

My INFJ operating system runs a lot like an INTJ's (because we're both Introverted Intuitive). I take a deep total-focus dive to the bottom of the sea and bring to the surface the best options I can come up with—then I pick one.

As a J, when I work on a project, I aim to line up the choices—like an INTJ, choices generated by my vision/by what I envision, namely, by my Intuition (N)—in front of the black-robed judge of my heart and soul and mind then hand down a decision. Decision after decision . . . relentlessly . . . till I get the project over the finish line. To one degree or another, FJs prefer to give the edge to their heart and soul (F: Feeling—my "Decider," my Judge), while TJs and TPs prefer to give the edge to their mind (T: Thinking—their "Decider," their Judge).

I run on the rocket-fuel of decisions.

Decisions (judgments, evaluations, choices) about how best to move forward, do this or that, this way or that way—how best to inspire and encourage others to make choices that move them forward or us forward, eagerly cheerleading their choices if they strike me as sound, to keep us moving toward our goal. Say, to design a house, select a flight, or complete a chapter of a book.

(Or tap out a hilariously wayyyyy long comment online.)

Even if all I decide is to make a tentative plan or "working decision," I'm programmed not to explore in an open-ended wayjust for the sake of exploringas my INTP friends tend to do, who feel like a fish in water not deciding, not drawing a conclusion, not making a judgment about yes or no, or stop or go . . . simply enjoying the bliss of the exploring itself.

Ps like to explore.

Js like to score.

3. Journey or Destination

For a P, the journeyisthe destination.

The destination plays the supporting role to the journey.

For a J, the journeyleadsto the destination.

The journey plays the supporting role to the destination.

That's why a J sets out on a trip in the first place:to get somewhere. Even if our destination turns out blissfully to be other than what we thought—and as much as we seek to enjoy the journey—the journey has little meaning if it doesn't help us get where we hope to go.

That said, both desires, both life pleasures—journey and destination—can be wonderfully balanced for both a P and a J (just as both hands can be—and typically must be—to play the piano well). But for the P and the J, when it comes to which leads and which follows on the dance floor of life—journey vs destination, spontaneity vs goal, "explore-for-explore sake" vs "explore-for-desired-destination sake," "leave it open-ended" or "let's check it off the list," "let's figure it out as we go" or "let's make a plan"—P and J type people tend to choose opposite sides of life's ballroom coin.

(OK, I'm drunk on metaphors, but you catch my drift?)

4. For Example: Road Trip

My INTP friend set out on a road trip from Seattle to San Francisco. He didn't book any motels before he set out on his three-night trip.

He texted me along the way, "You wouldn't do that, would you?" We laughed. Nothing's funnier than the truth.

No. I'd research the route and motel costs and estimate time and money and book reservations for all three nights. I might change the reservations en route, but I'm unlikely to set out without those three motel reservations functioning at least as placeholders.

My P friend doesn't need placeholders. In fact,he doesn't want them. He'll get to San Francisco. How he gets there—spontaneously,exploringly—that's what rocks his boat.

But stir this into my J road-trip mix, showing how our P/J sides balance us in individual ways, unique to each of us. Other than those three checkpoints (those 3 motel reservations) along the way, plus the start time and destination time (for which I'd allow wiggle room, my P/J blend), I'd P my way along the route spontaneously with regard to all stops in between . . . eager for surprises and serendipity-moments that cause me to detour and do things I didn't plan.

So nope.

J doesn't stand for Journey.

P doesn't stand for Plan.

(By the way, my INTP friend and I go together like Peanut butter & Jelly.)

5. Buddy Movie

Where do you fall along the P to J spectrum? You might be at one end of the spectrum to the extreme. Or you might fence-straddle the two.

Either way, remember: We all have a P side and a J side to our unique personalities. It just boils down to how well developed each side is in their own right and also relative to one another—and which hand, P or J, has the upper hand in our lives. Which one is our default. Because it's our go-to mode. The one we lean on more. Trust more.

Which one, in the movie of our lives, plays the best friend and which one plays the hero.

But our P & J buddies, to one degree or another, always operate in us, encouraging us to sort out how much we choose to wait and see (P) or plan and go (J).

Ready. Fire. Aim. (P)

Ready. Aim. Fire. (J)

Our P side goes with the flow and doesn't plan. Acts spontaneously. Lives in the moment.

Our J side looks down the road, sketches out a plan of what we hope lies ahead. Maps out the future.

6. Are you Star-Lord or Rocket?

Ask yourself as you watch GUARDIANS OF THE GALAXY or read the following scene from the movie:

Is Peter Quill (aka Star-Lord) P or J?

How 'bout Rocket?

  • Peter Quill : I have a plan.

    Rocket Raccoon : You've got a plan? Okay, first of all, you're copying me from when I said I had a plan.

    Peter Quill : I'm not copying you, I have a plan, that's not that unique of a thing to say.

    Rocket Raccoon : And secondly, I don't think you even have a plan.

    Peter Quill : I have part of a plan.

    Drax the Destroyer : What percentage of a plan do you have?

    ...

    Peter Quill : I dunno... Twelve percent?

So while it might not be entirely true of all Ps and Js, from what I've seen in the behavior of people I know, when it comes to INTPs and INFPs vs INTJs and INFJs—and in the P & J mix, the swing, the sliding scale, within myself:

Ps plan 12% and don't plan 88%.

Js plan 88% and don't plan 12%.

Ps roll. The trust their gut as they blaze a trail to reach their goals.

Js map. They trust their vision-plan as they follow their yellow-brick road.

But in ways unique to each of us, no matter which one plays the lead in the P/J Buddy Movie of our lives, we are all both Star-Lord and Rocket.

7. Who am I?

The analogy of left and right hand? I owe that analogy to the Myers-Briggs SME (Subject Matter Expert) Isabel Briggs Myers and her remarkable bookGifts Differing: Understanding Personality Type.

(But don't take the left hand/right hand analogy too literally because as Myers makes clear, unlike our handedness, we are not born with our MBTI profile—on the contrary, we learn it: we learn through experience and inner and outer shaping forces which faculties we most trust.)

As I turned one page after another in Myers's book, the fog of confusion lifted.

On page 75, INFP Myers (daughter of INFJ Katherine Cook Briggs) shows a table of "Effects of the JP Preference." She lists 10 contrasting preferences of "Judging Types" vs "Perceiving Types." I'm not going to cherry pick them. Here are all 10 pairs (no surprise to me, my INFP truelove put a checkmark in her copy of the book next to every statement about Perceiving Types):

  • Judging Types "Are more decisive than curious."
  • Perceiving Types "Are more curious than decisive."
  • Judging Types "Live according to plans, standards, and customs not easily or lightly set aside, to which the situation of the moment must, if possible, be made to conform."
  • Perceiving Types "Live according to the situation of the moment and adjust themselves easily to the accidental and the unexpected."
  • Judging Types "Make a very definite choice among life's possibilities, but may not appreciate or utilize unplanned, unexpected, and incidental happenings."
  • Perceiving Types "Are frequently masterful in their handling of the unplanned, unexpected, and incidental, but may not make an effective choice among life's possibilities."
  • Judging Types "Being Rational, they depend on reasoned judgment, their own or borrowed from someone else, to protect them from unnecessary undesirable experiences."
  • Perceiving Types "Being empirical, they depend on readiness for anything and everything to bring them a constant flow of new experience—much more than they can digest."
  • Judging Types "Like to have matters settled and decided as promptly as possible, so that they will know what is going to happen and can plan for it and be prepared for it."
  • Perceiving Types "Like to keep decisions open as long as possible before doing anything irrevocable, because they don't know nearly enough about it yet."
  • Judging Types "Think or feel that they know what other people ought to do about almost everything, and are not averse to telling them."
  • Perceiving Types "Know what other people are doing, and are interested to see how it comes out."
  • Judging Types "Take real pleasure in getting something finished, out of the way, and off their minds."
  • Perceiving Types "Take great pleasure starting something new, until the newness wears off."
  • Judging Types "Are inclined to regard the perceptive type as aimless drifters."
  • Perceiving Types "Are inclined to regard the judging types as only half alive."
  • Judging Types "Aim to be right."
  • Perceiving Types "Aim to miss nothing."
  • Judging Types "Are self-regimented, purposeful, and exacting."
  • Perceiving Types "Are flexible, adaptable, and tolerant."

And remember, at least as I see it, we're in a buddy movie, but titled toward one buddy more than the other. Whichever preference has the upper hand in us, we are not simply, totally, even the most extreme Ps or Js, 100% one or the other all the time. We all express in our outer lives some individual preference for the ratio of how these two competing preferences blend or partner, depending on the circumstances—perhaps, like me, swinging from 12% P / 88% J to 88% P / 12% J. (Especially when I pal around with my fun-loving, spontaneous, ESFP Star-Lord friend, truly "The Entertainer.")

As one of my J friends puts it, "We give Ps an axis. They give us the spin."

Thanks toGifts Differing, the fog lifted not only about my JP preference. But also about my EI preference and TF preference.

Plus, I learned the answer to this over-arching question:Who is the General that runs my show?Perceiving or Judging?

Get ready for a head-scratcher, because surprise, the general that runs my INFJ show? Perceiving(N: Intuition). Ditto for an INTJ. Because for us, while our J preference in theouterworld manifests itself as the rocket-fuel of decisions, rocket fuel isn't Mission Control. That's run by our General, who stays in our tent, ourinner世界,在幕后运行显示,发送our Aide (our judging process: F/Feeling for INFJ and T/Thinking for INTJ) into the outer world to make decisions that manifest themselves as a J (Judging) preference. But these decisions flow from the perceptions of the INFJ's and INTJ's General: Intuition.

And for an INTP? The general that runs their show? Again, surprise. Judging (T: Thinking). Because for an INTP, while their P preference in theouterworld manifests itself as the rocket-fuel of curiosity, rocket fuel isn't Mission Control. Myers says of types like INTP, "Introverts whose dominant process is a judging process, either thinking or feeling, do notoutwardlyact like judging people. What shows on the outside is the perceptiveness of their auxiliary process, and they live their outer lives mainly in the perceptive attitude" (Gifts Differing, p. 13). As for all introverts, an INTP's General acts behind the scenes, pulling the strings from the safety of theirinnerworld, sending their Aide (their perceiving process: N—Intuition), an INTP's second most adult and conscientious process, into the outer world to explore, manifesting itself as a P (Perceiving) preference. But curiosity and exploration flow from the judgements of the INTP's General: Thinking.

Introverts only present their General's Aide, their auxiliary process, their second best faculty, to the outer world, not their General. And for an INTP, the second best process is Perceiving (P). And for an INTJ and their next-door neighbor, INFJ, the second best process is Judging (J).

I'm doing the best I can to put accurately into words my grasp of these concepts. But go to the horse's mouth,Gifts Differing. Isabel Briggs Myers lays it all out great. The analogy of the General and the Aide? That's her analogy too.

Thanks to Myers & Briggs, the mother-and-daughter team of social scientists who created the deeply insightful architecture of 16 personality types, especially and crucially in the form of Myers's book, I've inched closer to an answer to the question at the heart of the human condition:Who am I?

Gifts Differinghas helped me to do what the ancient Greeks advised (one of the Delphic maxims inscribed in the vestibule of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi): "Know Thyself."

Isabel helped me to see my inner architecture.

What makes me tick.

And others too.

Like my explorer San Francisco-bound INTP friend, blissfully hitting the road without having made pre-trip overnight reservations . . . traveling wide-eyed . . . and spontaneously . . . adaptable and free . . . aiming to miss nothing . . .

Thrilled to have set out on his adventure (I can see the movie poster), "Motel-less from Seattle."

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