I absolutely agree. This is more relevant for undeveloped people in general who can't read if a person is looking for advice or to vent. It's problematic to conflate a study (about power seeking behavior and advice giving) with the total NTJ population. If the author is going to extrapolate that these tendenciesmightexist with NTJs, then it should be described that way. Making assumptions that we don't care about our friends and instead look to control our own anxiety is problematic and feeds the flanderization of MBTIs in general. It's intended to be a tool to better understand ourselves and our decision making behaviors.
For the record, as an ENTJ, I gauge whether my friends are looking for emotional comfort or tangible solutions. And if I have trouble gauging (I'm well aware of my weaknesses and sometimes I can't gauge), then I ask nicely. Because my goal as their friend is to help them. My friends know (and I fully acknowledge) that I am not the BEST person for emotional comfort, but I certainly try my best. Just had to add this bit so people know that NTJs are not sociopaths who don't actually care for their friends. In fact, I hear the most unsolicited advice from Sensors who don't bother guaging at all what kind of comfot their friend might be looking for. But, I wouldn't write an article on a very large platform about that. Because that is a very weak anecdotal personal correlation that I made with my feelings.
Also, it should be cleared up that arrogance and confidence are two different things. NTJs generally have an endless pursuit to improve and change. This pursuit (which should be considred neutral like the desire to stay comfortable and avoid change) forces us to understand our own stats. And knowing exactly what your strong and weak points are inherently makes you confident.
tl;dr It's problematic to look at NTJs (or people in general) in such an unuanced limited dehumanizing light. Second half is solid for everybody. Consider the information from the first half of the article to be "Author's Opinions and Extrapolations from Psychology Today".
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I absolutely agree. This is more relevant for undeveloped people in general who can't read if a person is looking for advice or to vent. It's problematic to conflate a study (about power seeking behavior and advice giving) with the total NTJ population. If the author is going to extrapolate that these tendenciesmightexist with NTJs, then it should be described that way. Making assumptions that we don't care about our friends and instead look to control our own anxiety is problematic and feeds the flanderization of MBTIs in general. It's intended to be a tool to better understand ourselves and our decision making behaviors.
For the record, as an ENTJ, I gauge whether my friends are looking for emotional comfort or tangible solutions. And if I have trouble gauging (I'm well aware of my weaknesses and sometimes I can't gauge), then I ask nicely. Because my goal as their friend is to help them. My friends know (and I fully acknowledge) that I am not the BEST person for emotional comfort, but I certainly try my best. Just had to add this bit so people know that NTJs are not sociopaths who don't actually care for their friends. In fact, I hear the most unsolicited advice from Sensors who don't bother guaging at all what kind of comfot their friend might be looking for. But, I wouldn't write an article on a very large platform about that. Because that is a very weak anecdotal personal correlation that I made with my feelings.
Also, it should be cleared up that arrogance and confidence are two different things. NTJs generally have an endless pursuit to improve and change. This pursuit (which should be considred neutral like the desire to stay comfortable and avoid change) forces us to understand our own stats. And knowing exactly what your strong and weak points are inherently makes you confident.
tl;dr It's problematic to look at NTJs (or people in general) in such an unuanced limited dehumanizing light. Second half is solid for everybody. Consider the information from the first half of the article to be "Author's Opinions and Extrapolations from Psychology Today".