I'm glad I've found your post! I have known I'm a social introvert since a while now, but I still learnt something in your paragraph about attending concerts and game nights, lectures and so on ! So that's why I prefer this kind of activities! and that I'm so energised and cheerful. I enjoy them so much, even though there can be many people, while I don't like cocktails and parties, and barbecues.
One thing I disagree with, is this "THE SOCIAL INTROVERT PREFERS TO INTERACT WITH PEOPLE THEY ALREADY KNOW ". I like talking to new people in settings where I'm comfortable. It's just that I'm always on guards because when you don't know who you're going to talk to, you don't know if it's someone who will match your energy and respect boundaries, or someone who will suddenly exhaust you and ruin the rest of energy left for socialising that day . You've said it yourself : THE SOCIAL INTROVERT HAS THEIR BOUNDARIES AND WANTS THEM TO BE RESPECTED. So I always need to evaluate the social situation and balance the risks. If I'm already a bit drained or know the day will be long, I tend to stay with friends I know. If it's a new moment or a short slot, I dare to explore new souls :)
I also love to talk. It's just that I'm so exhausted afterwards, and sometimes even during conversations. I literally lose my breath sometimes, it's weird.
Another good point you make is about group activities. For example, I love learning languages : well, there's a lot of cheap solutions nowadays to have a teacher for one-on-one virtual classes that are compatibles with your agenda... Still, I choose to go to a school, on-site, at fixed hours that I can't choose, because I just love interacting with a group in this kind of activities.
It's interesting being a social introvert. With a complete introvert, a shy introvert or a hermit introvert, extravert people don't really question their behaviour or violate their boundaries even if they find them weird (to extraverted standards of course). But being a social introvert means that sometimes people misunderstand you : they see you this open and talkative and interactive. And suddenly you disappear, sometimes for days, or you refuse to follow up with another meetup just after a day of shared activities. Some of my new acquaintances were so confused and it's hard to explain to them that really, I'm an introvert before anything else. I need my time alone.
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I'm glad I've found your post! I have known I'm a social introvert since a while now, but I still learnt something in your paragraph about attending concerts and game nights, lectures and so on ! So that's why I prefer this kind of activities! and that I'm so energised and cheerful. I enjoy them so much, even though there can be many people, while I don't like cocktails and parties, and barbecues.
One thing I disagree with, is this "THE SOCIAL INTROVERT PREFERS TO INTERACT WITH PEOPLE THEY ALREADY KNOW ". I like talking to new people in settings where I'm comfortable. It's just that I'm always on guards because when you don't know who you're going to talk to, you don't know if it's someone who will match your energy and respect boundaries, or someone who will suddenly exhaust you and ruin the rest of energy left for socialising that day . You've said it yourself : THE SOCIAL INTROVERT HAS THEIR BOUNDARIES AND WANTS THEM TO BE RESPECTED. So I always need to evaluate the social situation and balance the risks. If I'm already a bit drained or know the day will be long, I tend to stay with friends I know. If it's a new moment or a short slot, I dare to explore new souls :)
I also love to talk. It's just that I'm so exhausted afterwards, and sometimes even during conversations. I literally lose my breath sometimes, it's weird.
Another good point you make is about group activities. For example, I love learning languages : well, there's a lot of cheap solutions nowadays to have a teacher for one-on-one virtual classes that are compatibles with your agenda... Still, I choose to go to a school, on-site, at fixed hours that I can't choose, because I just love interacting with a group in this kind of activities.
It's interesting being a social introvert. With a complete introvert, a shy introvert or a hermit introvert, extravert people don't really question their behaviour or violate their boundaries even if they find them weird (to extraverted standards of course). But being a social introvert means that sometimes people misunderstand you : they see you this open and talkative and interactive. And suddenly you disappear, sometimes for days, or you refuse to follow up with another meetup just after a day of shared activities. Some of my new acquaintances were so confused and it's hard to explain to them that really, I'm an introvert before anything else. I need my time alone.
Leave me alone. :D