If you ever see this (it has been almost 2 years) I just want you to know that your are entirely not alone. When a good friend/teammate/family member/ gets harsh or demanding, even if it's for a moment, and even if want they want is understandable and reasonable, I immediately feel overwhelmed. I've seen other people describing the same feeling as well. For me at least, I think it's because I pride my ability to come to a solution, and I greatly value having several options, and ways to do things, it makes me feel secure. Saying I have to do something a specific with no discussion is, in way, violating all of this. When this comes from someone I don't know well I feel a little stressed and pretty annoyed, when it comes from someone I really care about, it feels like a betrayal, as if they should know better (even if I cognitively know that that's an unfair expectation). Couple that with the anxiety of disappointing them and it's a good few minutes of intense emotional wrangling to just be able respond properly.
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If you ever see this (it has been almost 2 years) I just want you to know that your are entirely not alone. When a good friend/teammate/family member/ gets harsh or demanding, even if it's for a moment, and even if want they want is understandable and reasonable, I immediately feel overwhelmed. I've seen other people describing the same feeling as well. For me at least, I think it's because I pride my ability to come to a solution, and I greatly value having several options, and ways to do things, it makes me feel secure. Saying I have to do something a specific with no discussion is, in way, violating all of this. When this comes from someone I don't know well I feel a little stressed and pretty annoyed, when it comes from someone I really care about, it feels like a betrayal, as if they should know better (even if I cognitively know that that's an unfair expectation). Couple that with the anxiety of disappointing them and it's a good few minutes of intense emotional wrangling to just be able respond properly.